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has anyone fallen out with family members?

(5 Posts)
ogri Tue 26-Jul-05 12:39:24

i have not spoken to my cousin and auntie in over a year.
my auntie didnt come to my wedding as i wouldnt invite her other daughter as she had let her boyfriend abuse her daughter and so she ended up in care. she was still with her boyfriend and i felt i didnt wantto see her after what she had allowed to happen to her daughter.
i didnt know my autie wasnt coming to my wedding and it was just my cousin, so i couldnt change table arrangements at the last minute. so my cousin felt very out of place and left shortly after the meal. i got an abusive text message next day saying thatnks for making me feel so welcome.
any way, my other cousin with the child has her back now after the little girl being in care for over a year and half, but she is still with the boyfriend and father of the girl.
i met my cousin that came to wedding today with little girl and i tried speaking to them as i feel its time to bury the hatchet, but she might as well have ignored me. me says its me not talking to her but i tried to speak to her today.
her and her mother are very negative people and hold a grudge for ages.
i feel if she hadnt have acted the way and texted me the way she did at my wedding this would never have happened.
if you dont understand any of this i'm sorry, its so hard putting it into words.
i dont know whether to text my cousin and see if she will speak to me or not. we used to be so close, i used to call her my sister.
i just dont know if i can see the other cousin after what she allowed to happen to her daughter or not.
what do i do??????????????

expatinscotland Tue 26-Jul-05 12:42:34

No, but I can see why you don't have dealings w/those two. Sorry, but I can't abide by ANY parent who stands by and let's a partner abuse their child.

tiffini Tue 26-Jul-05 12:46:00

I agree with expatinscotland, I would not tolerate this either, no-one should come before your own children.

My Father is an evil twisted man, I ran away from home when I was 12 (16 yrs ago)and have not seen or spoke to him since, blood is not always thicker than water.

ogri Tue 26-Jul-05 12:46:28

yes i know, i dont know how she could do it. and thats why i dont think i can see her.
but what about my other cousin? do i try to speak to her or not, even though they are now in contact with bad cousin and little girl.

triceratops Tue 26-Jul-05 12:58:35

I would ring and speak to your cousin to get her side of the story. If she is not speaking to you make her say it to your face if you see what I mean. Letters or texts have a way of sounding different to how you intend.

I wouldn't want to have anything to do with the cousin with the abusive boyfriend though until she ditches him. I can understand the aunty wanting to back up her daughter. I bet if you asked her she would say that there was no abuse and it was all evil social services taking the child for no reason. People find it very difficult to believe the truth in these circumstances.

Family can be horrible and weddings tend to bring that out I'm afraid. Sorry that you are having this trouble.

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