partner has done a runner

[jakeybob]

I feel absolutely gutted. My partner and I split up on the 22 of may. I have been trying to get him to agree to sell the house which he refused to do. I moved out as there was no way I could have afforded to live in it. He'd been having secret talks to a woman in scotland. I found out yesterday he moved up to scotland to be near her[she's married]. He's left me with all the bill's and apparently has been running more debt up. He has given everything away to his sister, whom he hadn't spoken to for 2 years, and a friend just to be spiteful to me. He has paid me £80 in maintenance for our son. I have since found out he has told everyone I had denied him access. which is a lie. He has told everyone he has signed the house over to me. Which is a lie. I am waiting to see if I can get legal aid so that I can go to court to get the house sold and try and secure some of his share for my sons future as I know he won't pay any more maintenance. I feel totally betrayed as he assured me there was nothing going on and that she looked like the back end of a bus. I think it hurts so much because I thought there might have been a chance for us to get back together. I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole now though. He has deserted his son and it is his first birthday on monday. He said he was going to take me to court for access even though I wouldn't deny him from seeing him.He already had 2 children by different mothers when we got together 7 years ago whom he has never given a penny to. I don't want his money,I just wanted him to stay in contact so that his son wouldn't feel to blame.

[nearly40]

Jakeybob, so sorry to hear you are going through this. Be strong, you have a lovely ds and you will find that will give you the determination you need to make a better life for both of you. You deserve better than this creep and at least you found out now what he is like before you wasted years more of your life on him. Contact CAB/local solicitor and take care of yourself. Don't try and do too much, you need to concentrate all your energies on you and your son for now. Life will get better in time and you will come to see that this was all for the best.

[Norash]

Hey Jakeybob, I can only offer moral support. Be strong and whatever you do, do not let that anger you have turn into bitterness as this can destroy you. Be strong for your boy, I know you say now that you would like him to keep in touch with his son. But do you not think that he would be better off without him? I mean I would rather have my kids growing up knowing that daddy is not coming back ever than live their lives full of broken promises.

All I can say is keep your head up, you sound like a strong woman. You will get through this.

[pinkmama]

So sorry to hear that Jakeybob. I never fail to be surprised by some of the stuff people manage to do to each other. Not sure how old your ds is. Have you got much support?

[jakeybob]

Sorry I didn't answer sooner only have been looking after my little boy.Thank you for your supportive words.I'm living with my mum and dad at the mo and have v. supportive brother and his wife. I am finding it hard to not be angry but am starting councelling next week so hope this will help me face up and sort out my feelings. I just can't understand how he can do this to me and his son. My head feels like it's going to explode!

[meggymoo]

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