just thew my husband out and need support please

[goinginsane]

see this thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=7&threadid=84628 sorry i an't do links.My next door nieghbour and dp have been having a sex text affair and were aranging to take it further.I have just found out tonight her husband rang me.Bloody hell what am i going to do

[ggglimpopo]

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[goinginsane]

i was shopping and her husband rung my mobile and told me they have been texting and planning to meet up when i am in bed and he goes away for the weekend.I am ashamed to say that i went around there and talked to her dp and then i hit her.she says that she was just being stupid.He has been back and i spoke to dh again and he said they have been meeting up at a supermarket carpark for groping sessions.and yes it probaly would have led to sex

[madrose]

I feel bad that there is nothing I can say that will take away the horrible pain and upset that you must be feeling. I wish I could give you BIG hug in person {{{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}}}}.

I was in your position once and I can still remember the pain. Thinking of you and here to listen.

[stitch]

well, i think you did the right thing...
also, from your previous thread, its not so much the sex that is the problem as the shared coversational intimacy that i think is the problem.
he needs to know he cant have his cake and eat it too. well done.

[goinginsane]

god i though we were together forever.I feel sick.Ihaven't even cryed

[QueenEagle]

What's with the link? It brings up an empty thread.

[stitch]

who says you are not together forever?
this is a glitch, a major one, but it doesnt mean your marriage cant recover. he needs to know what he has done is unacceptable. and you have told him this. it doesnt mean that because he fancied a bit on the side, he can get away with ruining your life and your kids.
he needs to grow up, accept his responsibilites, and his vows. apologise, and then hopefully you can both move forward together.

[goinginsane]

we can't if we live next door to them though.I thought he was a good man

[stitch]

yes, but he's still just a man!
everyoone mmakes mistakes. dont let his mistake ruin you r life. you did the right thing by kicking him out. now you need to get him to realise just what he has lost by a bit of groping.
icht. the mindlessness of men....

[stitch]

where has he gone too? her? his mom? i dont really know anything about your situation, so am just surmising.

[goinginsane]

a freind came around to talk to me so sorry i haven't been posting.don't know what is happening next door.he said he would throw him out.i have cried now but i wish i could turn the clocks back.I just feel sick of the thought of anyone touching my mans parts apart from me

[goinginsane]

he has gone to his mums

[goinginsane]

anyone up

[jayzmummy]

I am here if you need a chat. I hope you are OK.

[stitch]

well, if he has gone to his moms, then it is a good sign.
i sorry i had to go last night. will be back again this evining if you want to chat.
lots of hugs.

[Lizzylou]

Oh Goinginsane, you poor thing, well done for hitting her though..
How are you today?

[Listmaker]

Oh gis - so sorry to hear that this has happened. I honestly thought he was just being flattered by her attention and wouldn't act on it. You poor thing and to have to watch it happening in front of you and to live next door to her. I can't even begin to imagine it.

I have been throught similar too and it is just the pits. Keep posting on here and talking to people in RL and you'll get through this one way or another - so many of us on here have and are out the other side either single or giving the marriages another go.

Have you spoken to your h (guess I'll miss off the d at this point!) at all? What does he want to do? What do you want to do?