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just thew my husband out and need support please

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goinginsane Tue 05-Jul-05 22:40:04

see this thread sorry i an't do links.My next door nieghbour and dp have been having a sex text affair and were aranging to take it further.I have just found out tonight her husband rang me.Bloody hell what am i going to do

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goinginsane Tue 05-Jul-05 23:02:58

i was shopping and her husband rung my mobile and told me they have been texting and planning to meet up when i am in bed and he goes away for the weekend.I am ashamed to say that i went around there and talked to her dp and then i hit her.she says that she was just being stupid.He has been back and i spoke to dh again and he said they have been meeting up at a supermarket carpark for groping sessions.and yes it probaly would have led to sex

madrose Tue 05-Jul-05 23:05:49

I feel bad that there is nothing I can say that will take away the horrible pain and upset that you must be feeling. I wish I could give you BIG hug in person {{{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}}}}.

I was in your position once and I can still remember the pain. Thinking of you and here to listen.

stitch Tue 05-Jul-05 23:06:11

well, i think you did the right thing...
also, from your previous thread, its not so much the sex that is the problem as the shared coversational intimacy that i think is the problem.
he needs to know he cant have his cake and eat it too. well done.

goinginsane Tue 05-Jul-05 23:08:29

god i though we were together forever.I feel sick.Ihaven't even cryed

kama Tue 05-Jul-05 23:09:18

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QueenEagle Tue 05-Jul-05 23:09:55

What's with the link? It brings up an empty thread.

sallystrawberry Tue 05-Jul-05 23:10:52

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stitch Tue 05-Jul-05 23:11:03

who says you are not together forever?
this is a glitch, a major one, but it doesnt mean your marriage cant recover. he needs to know what he has done is unacceptable. and you have told him this. it doesnt mean that because he fancied a bit on the side, he can get away with ruining your life and your kids.
he needs to grow up, accept his responsibilites, and his vows. apologise, and then hopefully you can both move forward together.

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goinginsane Tue 05-Jul-05 23:13:13

we can't if we live next door to them though.I thought he was a good man

sallystrawberry Tue 05-Jul-05 23:13:49

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stitch Tue 05-Jul-05 23:15:14

yes, but he's still just a man!
everyoone mmakes mistakes. dont let his mistake ruin you r life. you did the right thing by kicking him out. now you need to get him to realise just what he has lost by a bit of groping.
icht. the mindlessness of men....

stitch Tue 05-Jul-05 23:16:12

where has he gone too? her? his mom? i dont really know anything about your situation, so am just surmising.

goinginsane Wed 06-Jul-05 02:46:09

a freind came around to talk to me so sorry i haven't been posting.don't know what is happening next door.he said he would throw him out.i have cried now but i wish i could turn the clocks back.I just feel sick of the thought of anyone touching my mans parts apart from me

goinginsane Wed 06-Jul-05 02:46:34

he has gone to his mums

goinginsane Wed 06-Jul-05 02:49:15

anyone up

jayzmummy Wed 06-Jul-05 03:05:49

I am here if you need a chat. I hope you are OK.

stitch Wed 06-Jul-05 09:06:58

well, if he has gone to his moms, then it is a good sign.
i sorry i had to go last night. will be back again this evining if you want to chat.
lots of hugs.

Lizzylou Wed 06-Jul-05 09:13:24

Oh Goinginsane, you poor thing, well done for hitting her though..
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