Yes I know - you don't often (actually have you ever) see posts from me complaining about my DH but the last few days he's been such a complete and utter are.
Saturday dinner time - DS2 messing around with his dinner, DH (I thought, and still think) being a little harsh on him about it. Tried to remind him that he is still only 19 months - and pratically got told that it wasn't any suprise I often complained that they'd been playing up if I don't discipline them (Well actually I do - but most of their playing up during the day is sibling fighting - I probably stick them both on the naughty step - not together LOL - more than he tells them off - he's usually a complete softie IMO).
Saturday night - I forgot to get DS1 up to do a wee at 10.30 (remembered at 11.50 and figured that I'd be too late so just left him). Went downstairs and told DH I'd forgotten and he started ranting on about "wasn't I using the Outlook reminders", "Why didn't I have outlook open", "I'll have to get used to having Outlook open all the time when I'm running the business as emails can come in at any time of the day" (tried to tell him I have it open all day, just close it at night and only check occasionaly but that wasn't good enough).
Then it was "well didn't you use the alarm on your mobile (I'm a bit scatty so need to use both outlook to remind me). "No - I'd left it in my coat pocket and didn't hear it" () - well that wasn't any good either.
Sunday afternoon - he was putting up shelves in my airing cupboard, I decided to do some tidying up outside - lots of bits and pieces (old scaffolding planks, bricks, slabs of stone, branchesm wood pile etc etc) still lying around various parts of our (little) garden.
Swept the path/patio bit, put the rest of the log pile in the brown bin, and moved the scaffolding planks to the back of the garden (where he put all the chopped up pear tree before Christmas - but which has since gone in the last few weeks because I broke it up small enough to go in the brown bin).
After he'd finished what he was doing I showed him what I'd been up to. Cue another 'that's no good' type blurb from him. It "looked messy" with them over in that bit of the garden "why did I have to move them to 'remember' to sort them out", "how long were they going to be there" etc etc. No-one had asked me to tidy up so why did I do it (well ermm sometimes I actually get off my fat are and do things without being asked)
I went in to cook dinner, and rather angrily told him I'd put the planks back after dinner, and I was going to chop them up either Monday (today) or Tuesday. He started spouting about "it was funny I'd only mentioned that now" (well he never gave me a sodding chance befoe!). Cue me get even more angry, through the spaghetti on the work top, grabbed jacket and told him he could finish dinner himself. Went to the door open it, shouted "pss of you wnker" () and slammed it behind me............that bit was embarassing as our street is usually quiet with no-one about at that time of the evening, but of course sods law the two neighbours opposite us were all out in the front chatting
went for a quick walk to the park round the corner, sat down and calmed down for 20 minute then went home - and came straight up here to the office - never said a word to him all night, and he made no attempt to 'patch things up'
This morning he left for work before I woke up (as per normal). About 10am got a phone call from him - first thing he does is say "Sorry if I upset you"
YIPEE thought I - he's apologised we can forget it all now. Told him it was ok and he then asked me "well aren't you going to apologise" - so I (grudgingly) told him I was sorry for shouting in front of the boys and leaving him to cook their dinner etc etc. He then turned round and said
"well at least now you're getting yourself a reputation on the street" (cue silence from me - it's the only time I've stomped out for a cool down walk since we moved in end of August last year! he then got round to the real reason for his phonecall - he wanted me to borrow the next door neighbours gas meter box key and check the figures and call him back with them - as we got a ludicrously high Gas Bill in the post this morning (turns out they overestimated by quite a lot).
Afternoon comes round and I decide to call him and apologise properly - once again he was really short with me - and although nothing nasty was said by either of us - it wasn't exactly a 'nice' phonecall.
He popped home just after lunch as he had a meeting in town, not much was said - apart from him telling me I'd used the wrong saw to cut up some of the scaffolding boards (apparently the one I used is designed for use on timber) and "why were his hammers out in the garden" "was I going to use them again today" - well yes I was going to use them again - but I have to go pick DS1 up now - so shall leave them in the garden until I get home (it's a secure garden - we use the - unlocked - greenhouse to store lots of stuff in!).
That wasn't good enough - I had to bring them in (by this time I was already leaving the house late - and had already got the pushchair outside the front door - so had to bring the pushchair back in, walk through the house, unlock the back door, pick up the hammers, lock the back door, walk back through the house and get the pushchair out of the house - again).
He got home from work slightly early today, made NO effort to speak to me. We ate dinner in virtual silence and I came up here for a while.
Went back downstairs and decided to try and make up again - which he 'seemingly' accepted.
But no - 1/2hr later DS2 was wanting a hug - and being close to bedtime was whinging for it - again I feel he went way OTT and told him (DS2) off. - and had a go at me for saying "he only wants a hug".
I then got 'blanked' again - so left the room saying "well what would I know - they play up for me during the day as I don't discipline them properly"............
That was 1hr ago - and although he's been up here twice - the only thing he's said is "sign there" (for the Tax Credit form).
WHY is he being such an ar*e???? I can't seem to do or say anything right for him at the moment and it's doing my head in!!!
(if you've got to the end of this and haven't fallen asleep LOL) no need to comment just needed a rant
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Why is my DH being such an ar*e
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