Ok, before I start this will probably be long and rambleing so I'm apologise now.
It's my MIL. I posted my relationship with her all over this site but today I have realised that I will never be able to forgive her for the things she has said to me/about me and the for the way she has treated our DS's.
I have known for along time that she doesn't like me and I can live this that because TBh I hate her more than you can ever imagine. I discovered today one of the reason she doesn't like me is because of my upbringing/background. I'm simply not good enough, because I'm a "working class girl" and horror of all horrors from a council estate. IMO this is an appalling dig at my parents who did there very best for us. She has said some things to me once about my dad who died when I was 13 and a very very long time before she came into my life.
She hasn't seen the Ds's properly since ds3 was 5 months old (he'll be 2 in september). The only time she's "seen" them since then was when she walked passed us in the street and ignored them. Ds2 got abirthday card this year but he's the first one to get one in 2 yrs.
I've suspected for a long while that she will only be happy if me a DH split up and I can pretty much guarantee he will be written out of her will when she dies because I'm married to him (I've hold him I'd never divorce him even if he was unfaithful, as I'd never give her the satisfaction). I couldn't care less baout about her money, she can give it all to who ever she want but it does make me feel very angry on DH's behalf.
Anyway, things have happened today and I've realised that i'll never be able to forgive OR forget this and it scares me that I have so much hate, loathing and rage inside me. It really does scare me.
I don't know how to let it go and I think it's almost unhealthy for me to feel like this.
I was asked to be Godmather for my cousins baby recently and part of the service was to write on a piece of paper something/someone we need to forgive. I knew I should write her name and I just couldn't do it. That really shocked me.
I've told Dh that I don't want her in my life or the Ds's and he accepts that, so really I should be Ok and pleased(I haven't said he can't see her btw, he just hasn't). It just eats away at me and make me feel like shit.
I'm not sure if there any advice you can give that will make me get through this mess but I just wanted to see it in black and white in the hope that it might help.
It hasn't though.
(i@m not going to preview this, so is there any typos, I'm sorry)
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Forgiving MIL.....is it possible and if so how?
emmatmg · 02/07/2005 21:27
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