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People with Idle Spouse Support. (Piss for short)

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MistressMary Sat 02-Jul-05 11:36:03

People with Idle Spouse Support. (Piss for short)


I think I have got an idle man.
He was meant to be fitting our new kitchen in. And its's still not done.
He has been more into his cycling and effing motorsport then actually finishing our home.
It has always been the same. We bought the house cheap and gutted it out and got the bulk of it done.
Just the kitchen and bathroom to be done, wardrobes fitted in and odds and sods.
This has been on going for five years. Okay I know he is self employed with his own shopfitting business etc, but surely to gawd he could pull his finger out and complete our nest.
I have a young son, and have had to move out while he is ripped out the temperory kitchen, for his safety. We are staying with his mum!
And looking at the house this am, it is a effing tip. Inch of dust on everything, clothes all over the place and I have reached the end of my tether to be honest.
I have pleaded, asked nicely shouted at him and if I can't get through to him how important it is for us to be in our own home and finished, then what chance have I got????
Everywhere esle people seem to manage with refits, buliding work and get the job done on less time and money.
I'm embarrassed what my family must think too.

He looks after us in every other way, just wish to gawd our house was a home.
I know he means well, but gawd he is slow on actually doing work, although he finishes contracts on time for the company he fits for, all okay!!

spleen vented there.

Anyone else needing P.I S.S.

octavia Sat 02-Jul-05 12:13:52

At last I feel I'm not alone !!
heres my list :-

Hall floor started 5 years ago..... unfinished
kitchen started 4 years ago..... v. unfinshed
new bathroom started 6 years ago .. v. unfinished
in general started 1 year ago ... v.unfinished
picking up
own stuff never even bloomin started
However he has
built radio controlled areoplanes within a week
rebuilt a catamaran within 6 months
redesigned his mothers and sisters gardens
in a year

good job I love him to bits and he's a very good dad

MistressMary Sat 02-Jul-05 12:31:46

Aha yes, it's the getting other peoples work done in no time that is the one that really grinds on me.

Eaney Sat 02-Jul-05 12:55:12

Why don't you get some quotes from professionals to finih the work. A friend of mine with DPs like yours did that and has never looked back. Must be an ego thing.

QueenEagle Sat 02-Jul-05 13:42:46

When I was a single parent, I used to just get on and do what needed doing. Now I am married again and I hang around waiting for dh to pull his finger out. I'm a doer, he is a thinker.

Trouble is if I went and got quotes, or did diy myself he would be offended, but I am now getting to the point where my house needs decorating more than his feelings need sparing.

Pinotmum Sat 02-Jul-05 13:49:56

Yes I have on of those. We have been in the house jus coming up to 5 yrs and have had 2 children since moving in. Not one room is finished. He cannot finish a job. He is a self employed builder and very busy but why move on to the next job before finishing the one you are on. The loft need wardrobe doors and a couple of panels painted. The kitchen needs a bit of grout here and there and cornicing completed, the patio needs a step, the living room needs shelving finished, the bathroom needs demolishing. He however can fit in golf days, weekends and whole weeks even while I sit and seeth. I am fed up sying oh well it will all be done one day because you know what I don't think it will He is a great bloke/husband and dad apart from that and always thinking he right grrrrr!!

AnnaInManchester Sat 02-Jul-05 15:44:05

"Why don't you get some quotes from professionals to finih the work. A friend of mine with DPs like yours did that and has never looked back. Must be an ego thing."

You never know the professionals you call in could be brad pitt lookalikes! Trade your hubby in for one of them!

Frizbe Sat 02-Jul-05 15:47:20

I think its the I'm a builder/joiner/windowfitter/shopfitter, so I'll do it when I get a sec spare mentality, My Dads a builder and he's still doing up the house, has been since I was born, my mother goes spare, as when he eventually gets it finished, they need to update or re do another bit (I'm 30 by the way!) They're quite happy to do a job if their paid for it, but as there not seeing hard cash from it, those jobs override it, IYSWIM

MistressMary Sat 02-Jul-05 15:54:29

Frizbe exactly!!!!!
"I'm a shopfitter and I know how to do it properly" attitude.

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