Trying to keep things short, my relationship with my dad has always been a bit strained as he is not a nice man, my mum left him when i was fourteen because he made my sister life a misery, from the moment i was born he decided i was better and his new favourite, and made my sister feel an inch tall ever since (she was only 4 when i was born) which i think is disgusting enough but since she left him other things have come out about him being very abusive to my mum and others aswell - basically he's a complete arse, although people that have never lived with him think he is great - he has a VERY good sense of humour and comes accross as a great guy, for me, since my mum left him i have been round to see him and kept in touch (unlike my sister for obvious reasons) as he made me feel very guilty initially and threatened me with his suicide if i didnt go and see him and help him etc etc etc.... although now im 26 so this was sometime ago i really dont like the man and have got into a rut if you like of maintaining contact with him because i cant help but feel like he is someone that is best kept onside rather than off as i really dont know what he would do if i cut him off (he has done some very psycho things to other people) when i had my last baby i told him i would be in touch when baby was a few days old as i needed some time with my new baby and older son, he came round when my new son was 5 days old or should i say he came crashing in my house and shouted and hurled abuse pointing his finger in my baby's face saying whats this? when were you going to call? what sort of daughter are you? etc... now im 26 weeks pregnant again and i havent told him yet! he came round a few weeks ago and i managed to hide my little bump, im not sure if he knows and isnt saying anything waiting for me to tell him (he's pretty manipulative) as he has shown alot more interest in coming around and dropping in lately, he is now asking when im coming round as i keep putting it off as i can no longer hide that im pregnant and i really dont want to tell him, although this sounds abit dire its an ongoing problem with him and i guess i need some advice as to what i should do next? should tell him or should i not and if not how do i get away with it all? i really have got myself into a knot over this and i could do with some input! - im hoping im not beyond helping! xxxx
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