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Should he stay or go!!?

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butty Wed 22-Jun-05 15:24:04

I'm going insane.Sorry this is quite long but I have been with my partner for 5 years and it's never been easy. We've been through the really bad times together and i have forgiven him for the worst possible things. we have 2 kids and well its not that he's a bad parent he just lacks the good partner thing. We never spend time together as he has a major addiction to his computer which evolves from as soon as he is home from work till the very early hour. It has been like this for 3 years and i have just about had enough!! Fair enough, i can go out whenever i want which is great, but recently i have started going out 2-3 times a week and have found myself kissing another bloke. Beginning to feel things have grinded to a halt but if i ask him to leave i will lose my freedom that i have become used to and really enjoy it as it is hard working and looking after the kids especially when one has problems which are really demanding. What would you do??? Please help.!!

basketcase Wed 22-Jun-05 15:28:15

sounds tough. Is he aware how you are feeling right now and how upset you are that he is just not putting the time and enery into your relationship that you require?
I don’t know what I would do in your shoes because every situation is subtlely different, but I guess the best place to start to sort it out and work out what to do is to communicate. Unplug the computer after the children are in bed tonight and tell him that it is serious, you need to talk as your relationship is on the line. Try to stay open and listen to his point of view, even if you don’t agree with it and be honest in return, tell him exactly how you feel and that it must change.
Easy to type, much harder to do but I reckon talkng is the only way forward.
Good Luck x

butty Wed 22-Jun-05 15:42:05

tried this on plenty of occasions and he changes for about 2 maybe 3 days and it all goes back to the same old ways. Cant ever win with him as it appears that the computer is his life.

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