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dh having affair

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husbandhavingaffair Tue 21-Jun-05 22:03:26

Just found out dh having affair with my best friend.

Says she makes him feel loved.

we have two babies 15 months and 2.5

been married 14 years.

she is part of the babies life day in day out, even calls herself the nanny

What do i do?

stitch Tue 21-Jun-05 22:05:43

who is more important to you? the so called friend, or the husband?
kick the woman out. decide if you want to save this marriage, then both of you go to relate if you want to stay with him.
ban the B.i.t.c.h from your household. sleeping with a best friend is incestuous imo

stitch Tue 21-Jun-05 22:06:52

how do you feel about this? what is the state of your marriage otherwise.
oh god, this is so huge, i hope you get lots of support and hope you get through this ok.

moondog Tue 21-Jun-05 22:07:01

How do people like this woman sleep at night?????
Truly dreadful for you.

husbandhavingaffair Tue 21-Jun-05 22:08:07

just cant believe this has been going on under my nose.

came home last night and they sat together on the settee, talking to another friend on aol

am i stupid or what

what about the older two 13 & 11

helsi Tue 21-Jun-05 22:08:36

what else has he said about it? how did you find out? This is awful. She is no best friend. has she given you an explanation?

How do you feel? You haven't said. What do you feel should happen now?

QueenEagle Tue 21-Jun-05 22:09:51

How did you know, did he confess, or did you catch them out or what???

NomDePlume Tue 21-Jun-05 22:10:03

I think you need to find out the facts and then go from there.

Libb Tue 21-Jun-05 22:10:32

HHA, I am really sorry to hear about this - I hope it is something that can be worked on. Is he around at the moment?

Hugs to you xxxx

husbandhavingaffair Tue 21-Jun-05 22:11:58

she texted him this afternoon while i was out shopping with her, came home moved the car over on the drive coz babies were asleep his phone was in the car had a message on it so looked.

From her saying how r u darling i love u

there were three from her today

so i asked him he said yes

doesnt know what he wants, wishes it was all a dream.

no family around

she has become like family to us

husbandhavingaffair Tue 21-Jun-05 22:12:54

he's sat on settee head in his hands i on laptop on other settee

Fio2 Tue 21-Jun-05 22:15:44

sorry I am confused. have you got 4 kids then?
how did you find out?
who told you?
have you confronted him?
and bloodyhell

QueenEagle Tue 21-Jun-05 22:15:49

If I were you HHA, I would get off the laptop and stop posting about it on MN and get talking about it with him instead.

spod Tue 21-Jun-05 22:16:05

Message deleted

husbandhavingaffair Tue 21-Jun-05 22:16:29

i feel like i gonna wake up in the morning and this is gonna not of happened.

now who's dreaming

this is something i never thought would happen to us

Fio2 Tue 21-Jun-05 22:17:19

sorry x posts

littleredridinghood Tue 21-Jun-05 22:19:09

HI HHA - I havent posted in ages so i feel really odd joining in on your sorrow but i couldnt read about whats happening to you without offering some sympathy - what an awful situation for you
I hope you manage to sort things out soon

husbandhavingaffair Tue 21-Jun-05 22:19:31

yes we got 4 kids, cant talk to him now he just been called out to work, maybe i will have gone to bed when he comes home

This is rediculous.

No i havent spoken to her but think i may have dropped her in it with her ds as he was on aol and i thought it was her.

husbandhavingaffair Tue 21-Jun-05 22:42:43

someone speak to me

AreWeBeingHad Tue 21-Jun-05 22:46:02

I rest my case.

rickman Tue 21-Jun-05 22:48:04

Message withdrawn

Fio2 Tue 21-Jun-05 22:51:19

are you ok?

amd fuck off arewebeinghad

husbandhavingaffair Tue 21-Jun-05 22:51:58

i going to bed maybe this wont have happened when i get up in the morning

pedilia Tue 21-Jun-05 22:53:23

sorry to hear that hha- what are you going to do ?

handlemecarefully Tue 21-Jun-05 22:55:35

Fio2, steady - arewebeinghad may have a point....have to say those thoughts have entered my head too.

husbandhavinganaffair, if you are genuine then I am truly sorry for your awful bombshell.

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