dh having affair

[husbandhavingaffair]

Just found out dh having affair with my best friend.

Says she makes him feel loved.

we have two babies 15 months and 2.5

been married 14 years.

she is part of the babies life day in day out, even calls herself the nanny

What do i do?

[stitch]

who is more important to you? the so called friend, or the husband?
kick the woman out. decide if you want to save this marriage, then both of you go to relate if you want to stay with him.
ban the B.i.t.c.h from your household. sleeping with a best friend is incestuous imo

[stitch]

how do you feel about this? what is the state of your marriage otherwise.
oh god, this is so huge, i hope you get lots of support and hope you get through this ok.
{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

[moondog]

How do people like this woman sleep at night?????
Truly dreadful for you.

[husbandhavingaffair]

just cant believe this has been going on under my nose.

came home last night and they sat together on the settee, talking to another friend on aol

am i stupid or what

what about the older two 13 & 11

[helsi]

what else has he said about it? how did you find out? This is awful. She is no best friend. has she given you an explanation?

How do you feel? You haven't said. What do you feel should happen now?

[QueenEagle]

How did you know, did he confess, or did you catch them out or what???

[NomDePlume]

I think you need to find out the facts and then go from there.

[Libb]

HHA, I am really sorry to hear about this - I hope it is something that can be worked on. Is he around at the moment?

Hugs to you xxxx

[husbandhavingaffair]

she texted him this afternoon while i was out shopping with her, came home moved the car over on the drive coz babies were asleep his phone was in the car had a message on it so looked.

From her saying how r u darling i love u

there were three from her today

so i asked him he said yes

doesnt know what he wants, wishes it was all a dream.

no family around

she has become like family to us

[husbandhavingaffair]

he's sat on settee head in his hands i on laptop on other settee

[Fio2]

sorry I am confused. have you got 4 kids then?
how did you find out?
who told you?
have you confronted him?
and bloodyhell

[QueenEagle]

If I were you HHA, I would get off the laptop and stop posting about it on MN and get talking about it with him instead.

[spod]

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[husbandhavingaffair]

i feel like i gonna wake up in the morning and this is gonna not of happened.

now who's dreaming

this is something i never thought would happen to us

[Fio2]

sorry x posts

[littleredridinghood]

HI HHA - I havent posted in ages so i feel really odd joining in on your sorrow but i couldnt read about whats happening to you without offering some sympathy - what an awful situation for you
I hope you manage to sort things out soon

[husbandhavingaffair]

yes we got 4 kids, cant talk to him now he just been called out to work, maybe i will have gone to bed when he comes home

This is rediculous.

No i havent spoken to her but think i may have dropped her in it with her ds as he was on aol and i thought it was her.

[husbandhavingaffair]

someone speak to me

[AreWeBeingHad]

I rest my case.

[rickman]

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[Fio2]

are you ok?

amd fuck off arewebeinghad

[husbandhavingaffair]

i going to bed maybe this wont have happened when i get up in the morning

[pedilia]

sorry to hear that hha- what are you going to do ?

[handlemecarefully]

Fio2, steady - arewebeinghad may have a point....have to say those thoughts have entered my head too.

husbandhavinganaffair, if you are genuine then I am truly sorry for your awful bombshell.

[spod]

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