So totally devastated- please help me

[UtterlyBereft]

I have found this site after being so impressed by accounts of it in the press, and after looking around and seeing how supportive you all seem to be I am reaching out for a way through this pain.

I have never known hurt like this before- I was one of those people who thought love would last forever. I was wrong. Richard has left me, and I'm pretty sure he has moved in with the woman door. I don't know what I'm going to do...

Should I take his belongings round and leave them on the doorstep? I shouldn't have let him out of my sight- it's all my fault

[Overtiredmum]

Hi Utterly, am really sorry to hear this. Have you posted on here before? I don't have many wise words to offer on this but MN is the best site in the world for needing help and support.

So you think R has left you to live with your neighbour, have I got that right? I personally wouldn't have over his stuff, if he wants he, he collects it, but thats what I would do.

Am sending you big ((((((((hugs))))))))) and a virtual glas of wine, big box of tissues - am here if you want to share/scream/cry/make voodoo doll

OTM x

[AnyFucker]

I don't know what to say

but I had to extend the hand of sympathy to you

welcome to Mumsnet

I hope you get the attention you need

and that you get help

[Overtiredmum]

Sorry, "hand" over his stuff....... its been a long day and am still at work - apologies!

[Hullygully]

I'm slightly concerned that he's moved in with a female door? Surely that can't be right?

[mrsruffallo]

That's what I was thinking hully

[UtterlyBereft]

He wouldn't be strong enough to carry it all, I'm afraid. Perhaps if I do this for him, he will see how much I love him and that he was a fool to leave me? That is what I am hoping. I think he dragged a few bits and pieces round, what little he could manage, but I have done so much for him that I think he'll expect me to do it, to be honest.

You are so kind. I'm just so confused.

[Hullygully]

I can't really get a handle on this at all.

[UtterlyBereft]

I suppose he just saw a welcoming bosom, Reality...mine just can't compare, it would seem...

[Overtiredmum]

Hully

[Sparkletastic]

Who and what is Richard?

[Overtiredmum]

Do you really want someone who is THAT shallow? You deserve better than that.

[abbierhodes]

Ah. Is Richard a cat?

[UtterlyBereft]

He does have a collection of toys that he will be missing. But I can't bear the thought of him sharing his pleasure with her

[Hullygully]

Try not to get in a flap about it.

[mrsruffallo]

Oo-er