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So totally devastated- please help me

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UtterlyBereft Thu 12-Nov-09 22:08:51

I have found this site after being so impressed by accounts of it in the press, and after looking around and seeing how supportive you all seem to be I am reaching out for a way through this pain.

I have never known hurt like this before- I was one of those people who thought love would last forever. I was wrong. Richard has left me, and I'm pretty sure he has moved in with the woman door. I don't know what I'm going to do...

Should I take his belongings round and leave them on the doorstep? I shouldn't have let him out of my sight- it's all my fault sad

RealityBites Thu 12-Nov-09 22:14:16

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Overtiredmum Thu 12-Nov-09 22:14:28

Hi Utterly, am really sorry to hear this. Have you posted on here before? I don't have many wise words to offer on this but MN is the best site in the world for needing help and support.

So you think R has left you to live with your neighbour, have I got that right? I personally wouldn't have over his stuff, if he wants he, he collects it, but thats what I would do.

Am sending you big ((((((((hugs))))))))) and a virtual glas of wine, big box of tissues - am here if you want to share/scream/cry/make voodoo doll grin


AnyFucker Thu 12-Nov-09 22:14:46

I don't know what to say

but I had to extend the hand of sympathy to you

welcome to Mumsnet

I hope you get the attention you need

and that you get help

Overtiredmum Thu 12-Nov-09 22:15:25

Sorry, "hand" over his stuff....... its been a long day and am still at work - apologies!

RealityBites Thu 12-Nov-09 22:15:46

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Hullygully Thu 12-Nov-09 22:20:24

I'm slightly concerned that he's moved in with a female door? Surely that can't be right?

RealityBites Thu 12-Nov-09 22:21:36

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mrsruffallo Thu 12-Nov-09 22:21:57

That's what I was thinking hully

UtterlyBereft Thu 12-Nov-09 22:22:03

He wouldn't be strong enough to carry it all, I'm afraid. Perhaps if I do this for him, he will see how much I love him and that he was a fool to leave me? That is what I am hoping. I think he dragged a few bits and pieces round, what little he could manage, but I have done so much for him that I think he'll expect me to do it, to be honest.

You are so kind. I'm just so confused.

Hullygully Thu 12-Nov-09 22:22:49

I can't really get a handle on this at all.

RealityBites Thu 12-Nov-09 22:24:01

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UtterlyBereft Thu 12-Nov-09 22:24:07

I suppose he just saw a welcoming bosom, Reality...mine just can't compare, it would seem...

Overtiredmum Thu 12-Nov-09 22:24:10

Hully grin

Sparkletastic Thu 12-Nov-09 22:24:22

Who and what is Richard?

RealityBites Thu 12-Nov-09 22:24:26

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LeQueen Thu 12-Nov-09 22:24:52

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Overtiredmum Thu 12-Nov-09 22:25:01

Do you really want someone who is THAT shallow? You deserve better than that.

abbierhodes Thu 12-Nov-09 22:25:02

Ah. Is Richard a cat?

UtterlyBereft Thu 12-Nov-09 22:25:53

He does have a collection of toys that he will be missing. But I can't bear the thought of him sharing his pleasure with her sad

LeQueen Thu 12-Nov-09 22:26:20

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Hullygully Thu 12-Nov-09 22:26:22

Try not to get in a flap about it.

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