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WWYD - Pg with dc2, no longer in love and very unhappy...

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laurashavingababy Thu 12-Nov-09 20:20:10

Dp and I have been together for 6 years. We have had our problems and split for a month earlier this year. We got back together mainly because he wanted to be close to dd and couldnt afford to live on his own - His terms! I was happy to accept as I still loved him.

Anyway, after a great few months we decided to try for dc2. It happened instantly to our surprise.

Now Im 30 weeks pg with a 17mo dd. I dont think I love him anymore and dont really speak to him.

He doesnt understand how hard this pregnancy has been for me and I am really struggling. Having said that, he was away this week with work for a few nights and I loved it!!

Should I tell him its over and ask him to leave? Should I wait until Ive had dc2? I dont want him at the birth this time and tbh dont want him to know that im in labour so that he doenst tell anyone.

Any advise welcome. Sorry its long and boring.

Naetha Thu 12-Nov-09 20:29:12

No advice I'm afraid, but bumping for you

cathcat Thu 12-Nov-09 20:35:20

What on earth do you mean 'don't want him to know that I'm in labour' ?

Tbh, I don't think you should do anything drastic until after the baby is here. You are going through a huge change - you personally and as a family and you should let the dust settle before doing anything.

Can you say why you don't love him atm?

lambanana Thu 12-Nov-09 20:45:10

What has happened in such a short space of time that has made you go from loving him to not loving him.

Most men dont understand what its like for women emotionally when pregnant so maybe cut him a bit of slack with that.

It sounds like this is quite one sided. You dont speak to him but does he speak to you?

You deffo need to get it sorted before you are due though.

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