how to find "closure"

[angelfire]

I have not got on with my family for a number of years. Long story but basically divorced parents each playing games over their children (of which I am one). Throw in a bit of domestic violence, hypocrisy, anger and lies and there you have it.

I have managed to create a loving family of my own - lovely DH, fab DS. I have a small but loyal group of friends.

I wish I could stop thinking about my birth family and get on with living my own life. I feel pulled back into all the old arguments, divisions etc

Has anyone been there and can give me a mantra or something just to tell enough is enough and to get over it.

[toomanystuffedbears]

"That was then, this is now."
It helps me stay focused on the present and shred the brain junk of the past.