My younger sister recently left home for uni, and with my brother already at uni this leaves the family home empty of children.
God forbid that my mother should actually communicate/socialise/live peacefully with my father, she seems to be searching for a new outlet for her nesting urges. Both my younger brother and sister are quite dependent (slightly less so now they've moved out), needing lifts and money and advice, etc, etc. I am quite a bit older and love my independence and had left home many years before them and no great domestic tragedy has befallen me yet.
Mum has now wiped from her memory the fact that I've lived quite happily in my own house for years and years, managing to feed, water and clean my family fairly successfully, and has switched back into uber-mothering mode as if I am 12 years old
She's trying to organise things for me and DD that we've always done ourselves, keeps buying and trying to give me all sorts of stuff, furniture, crockery, etc, go on it'll look nice in your room, never mind if you already have enough beds, have another one, you can never have enough beds, go on......
If I won't agree then she starts rabbiting on at DP or DD about it, usually managing to convince one of them that they really do want said bed/chair/tv/saucepan/curtain rail/blah blah until we end up with the bloody thing without being able to figure out who agreed we would have it
I can't seem to have a conversation at the moment about anything with her, if it's anywhere near a moan she launches into 'Fix The Problem' mode, if it's what should we do for DP's birthday she has it sorted before I've even finished my sentence - you get my drift
DD's getting a bit confused and playing up a little because grandma is letting her do things that DP & I won't
I love her dearly and I do appreciate her input and help when I need it (I'm sure I sound like a right ungrateful whingebag) but she is beginning to get a bit overpowering and smothery and tbh it's on the verge of interference now
I am about ready to scream
WWYD?
(Oh, and she already has a job and a cat before they are suggested )
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I think my mother has Empty Nest Syndrome. Please help me find a cure before I end up screeeeeeeaming at her!
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MadreInglese · 10/11/2009 14:57
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