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Sex life issues

(5 Posts)
NotReadyYet Mon 09-Nov-09 10:58:28

I am mum of 2 DDs, have v stressful (supposedly) part-time job, and look after home single handedly. Unsurprisingly come 11 at night when I crawl into bed sex is the last thing on my mind.

I think the only way DH would be happy is if he got his leg over every night. When we have sex its great and I enjoy it. But within 2 days he'll be hinting and complaining that we never do it. If I wasn't knackered once a week would be great. But this would not be enough for DH. His dissappointment in our sex life results in him suffering bouts of depression.

To be honest I'm so sick of it I'd pefer never to have sex again.

bogie Mon 09-Nov-09 11:01:03

Me and DP have this same problem, I wish I could be of some help but I can't find a soloution for it.

diddl Mon 09-Nov-09 11:13:20

Then he needs to do more to help so that you are not so tired.

Early mornings work for usblush

SolidGoldBangers Mon 09-Nov-09 11:25:06

How much domestic work and childcare does your H do? WOuld the answer be 'bugger all'? Because too many men, by being lazy and selfish over housework issues, turn sex into another chore their DWs feel obliged to perform for the man's benefit - and the sex gets more and more rubbish as it becomes about getting the man to pop his cork quickly so the DW can go to sleep ie no fun for her.
Tell your H that men who do their fair share of domestic work and childcare have much better sex lives as their wives see them as partners, not as demanding drains on their time.

abedelia Mon 09-Nov-09 12:53:44

Cheers for Solid... Think anyone would rather have sex with someone they considered their partner rather than a lazy arse who is a drain on their time and energy.

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