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Can you tell me if I'm being silly

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Mosschops30 Fri 17-Jun-05 10:02:50

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emkana Fri 17-Jun-05 10:05:25

Is your dh supposed to look after your children?

beansmum Fri 17-Jun-05 10:05:35

um, I think you're being a bit silly (sorry)
If you're not going to be there then it doesn't really matter if your dh is in or not does it?
have you got any reason not to trust him?

beansmum Fri 17-Jun-05 10:06:13

oh, didn't think of children. If he's supposed to be looking after them then I would be pissed off.

emkana Fri 17-Jun-05 10:06:47

If your dh is completely alone for the weekend I don't see what difference it makes to you whether he sleeps at home or at his friend's house, sorry. Unless he's somehow supposed to care for the children... then it'd be different, of course.

Mosschops30 Fri 17-Jun-05 10:07:41

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Mosschops30 Fri 17-Jun-05 10:08:48

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ChaCha Fri 17-Jun-05 10:08:56

I guess it depends on your relationship. I would imagine that he sees it as you're going away so why should he be stuck at home. Think as his wife you had every right to ask him not to stay over especially as you don't particularly like the company there. Maybe he just feels that you don't trust him and maybe is really missing you!!!! Might be wishing you were at home

katierocket Fri 17-Jun-05 10:10:31

so he's going out, his mum will have the children and the argument is about whether or not he stays over at someone house? is that right?
if so then I think you probably are being a bit OTT

madmarchhare Fri 17-Jun-05 10:11:41

Slight over reaction on your part I think, sorry!

Mosschops30 Fri 17-Jun-05 10:11:42

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Mosschops30 Fri 17-Jun-05 10:12:04

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moondog Fri 17-Jun-05 10:12:37

Sorry,mosschops. Thin you're being a bit churlish.What difference does it make to you? (Who are you going away with and what are you doing btw?)

Mosschops30 Fri 17-Jun-05 10:14:58

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moondog Fri 17-Jun-05 10:15:47

What monastery?

Mosschops30 Fri 17-Jun-05 10:16:39

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lunavix Fri 17-Jun-05 10:16:44

it sounds a little silly but exactly like the sort of thing I'd say to dh I'm a jealous and paranoid person, oh the things he has to put up with!!

Lonelymum Fri 17-Jun-05 10:17:08

Sounds like you are in for a lovely weekend - wish I could come! Let him enjoy his weekend anyway he can (within moral limits of course!). You will both feel better for it.

Mosschops30 Fri 17-Jun-05 10:17:38

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Lonelymum Fri 17-Jun-05 10:17:59

Going to Worth Abbey? I lived near there until Feb.

moondog Fri 17-Jun-05 10:17:59

Can I come too mosschops?
My idea of heaven.
Hope you both have a good time.

lunavix Fri 17-Jun-05 10:20:45

mosschops - I don't know really...

I've always been like it, I think it's a bit less now simply because me and dh don't do a lot apart, I think we've had two nights apart in the last 2 years.

Dh has come to realise it's part of me though (which I appreciate, although there's other things I wish he could accept too, like me getting cranky if I'm tired )

Mosschops30 Fri 17-Jun-05 10:23:33

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moondog Fri 17-Jun-05 10:25:17

mosschops,make it up to him before you go,otherwise the w/end will be spoilt for both of you.

My dh has been away for most of the past 4 years.I have to trust him (and vice versa) or we wouldn't still be married.

Lucymoo Fri 17-Jun-05 12:11:14

Mosschops,i really sympathise for you,i am exactly the same.I try my hardest not to let my jealousy,insecurity and paranoia rear its ugly head but its hard!I try to bite my tongue cos i hate rowing and i end up really upsetting dp for my lack of trust in him.I wish i didnt feel this way cos it just eats away at me.

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