This is quite long so please be paitent. I have been married for 7.5 yrs and with my husband 15.5 yrs. We have 2 children and another on the way.
We have had our ups and downs but recently more downs.
There has always been something between us. My husband thinks I had a bit of a past before I met him as when I started seeing him I told him all about my past relationships even going into detail. I know now it was a mistake but I thought I wanted him to know all about me. He also thinks that I two timed him while I was at College as I shared a bed with a male friend, nothing happened between us and we were not attracted to each other, thats why we thought it was a good idea. I told my husband as I knew if he heard about it he would get the wrong end of the stick. He went mad at the time but then said he believed what I told him.
Now 14 years on he is bringing it up and telling me what a slut I was and making remarks about keeping my knickers on. When he gets like this he does not care if the kids hear him and I know they will soon understand what he is saying. He appears quite agressive waving his fists about and has grabbed my arm when I tried to walk away leaving a bruise on it.
He can sometimes be aggressive with ds (3) waving his fist and biting his finger (dh's own) while giving out to him. He has never hit him but it is very upsetting.
When things are good they are great he is a great provider and we can go 2 months without a mention of my past. Do you think I am making too much of this
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flowerbag · 05/11/2009 14:26
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