Started a relationship with an old friend of mine, known him for bout 6yrs, started going for coffeess more and things escalated, even tho i convinced myself i didnt want a relationship with him, i ended up fallin for him in a big way.
SO it was all go, we decided that we could look at moving in together mid 2010, i was eager for sooner until his 2 children, girl, 13, boy, 9, startd showing their true colors, they live with him full time, their mum who was also an old friend of mine cheatd on their dad, had another kid and doesnt even ring them r answer their calls/texts, i can understand these kids r in need of love and support and i gave them this, helped them out with lots of things, made them welcome in my home i have with my 3 yr old girl. i hasten to add it is a poky 2 bed flat. so as they started stayin more i couldnt handle the kids behavior, they broke my daughters table, my tv, my iron, clothes horse, stained my carpets, and the worst thing was when the 9yr old messed his pants, didnt say anything til 2 hrs later someone wanted to use the loo and there was poo covering the entire outside at the front of my toilet, i am a clean freak, i admit that but these kids still wet the bed. is this normal? i know when i was 9 i certainly was not wetting the bed, and as for being 13 and still doin it?? r they just lazy?
the house they live in is awful, just awful, stinkin, pit, i have helpd them clean and tidy and start to decorate the place, i had a sofa delivered there for us, 25 quid a mth for the nxt 4yrs, but i dont know if its rigt to move in wi them, the school have contacted social services due to their behavior and most days he doesnt even wake til they have left for school, he hits them but in a way i can understand why cos they have trashed classrooms and ben real tearaways, it embarrassing cos ive even gone up the school with him and sat and spoke to the teachers, i just feel like this is not my world.
me and my little girl have been by ourselves since the say i found out i was pregnant til now and i love our little life together and im havin serious doubts to this relationship....any advice??!!please
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happyhippy33 · 03/11/2009 21:53
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