Partner is grieving and shutting me out

[Lyndor]

Can anyone help. My partner's mother has terminal cancer and he just cannot cope with this at all. I am offering all my love and support but he is shutting me out and talking about moving out. At the same time as this my mother is ill and in hopspital recovering from a serious op. I am working full time, looking after house and family and supporting everyone and I canot believe that my partner is being like this. I have told him that all I need is a hug now and then and to know he loves me (as I am a bit stressed out) and he is so full of grief and self pity he says that he cannot cope. His mother is still alive and I think he is wasting this precious time. I have tried everything but nothing I say or do helps. If anything it makes it worse.

[cestlavielife]

he needs to see a counsellor - maybe macmillan nurses can advise on someone? hospice counsellor?

ultimatley his grief etc is his problem he needs to find his own way thru it.

[Lemonylemon]

How long has this been going on? He's pre-grieving. I'd speak to CRUSE as well to see if you can get him some counselling. They may also be able to help you to cope with the effects of his grief.