Don't quite know where to put this thread so have decided to put it under "relationships". At the risk of sounding childish and a bit selfish, I sometimes resent how little "attention" I get since the birth of ds. Ds is absolutely wonderful and totally deserving of all the love and attention he does get from everybody (dh and I and all three of his grandparents first and foremost). He needs it and is thriving with it so that's great.
I just mind a little when my mother only takes pictures of my dad with ds or gets my dad to take them of her with him. Loads like this... Or when on the wall of their flat near here (not where they live permanently) there is only a picture of ds with my dad and ds with my sister (golden girl). I mind a little when dh comes home and only has eyes for ds without asking me how I am etc... (still he has always been like that, long before ds came along), or when he showers ds with kisses and not me... Okay so I shower ds with kisses as well, but dh wouldn't actually like it if I did it to him. I also mind a little when you walk into a room of in laws and they also only have eyes for ds. Interestingly one of the people who doesn't make me feel like this is MIL who is really quite sweet, especially for the first 3 or 4 days we are together (can get rather bossy after that). My Dad walks into the house and obviously only wants to see ds. Maybe this is a reflection of how badly I get on with my parents and this is just amplified when you have kids???
Sometimes I can understand why people have affairs when married with kids - just the pure relief of someone being interested in you for yourself only...
Can anyone relate to any of this or do I just sound like Mrs Pathetic Victim?
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Lack of attention
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arabella2 · 29/05/2003 11:23
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