Feeling a little sorry for myself today and just wanted some opinions. DH and I though we rarely argue just seem to be in a total rut which is leaving me feeling invisible to him. We just do not talk, hardly ever. We will chat away about our ds no problem but thats about it.
He gets up in the morning, makes his breakfast, gets the laptop out and catches up on the news for about 30 min, thats akll sat in the dining room alone. Then off out to work, home and more of the same. Does evening routine with me with ds but the laptop is out and where possible he is on that and then for the rest of the evening when ds is in bed. More often than not I get so fed up I just go upstairs about 9pm.
The weekends are the worst, he just does not speak. We will say go to his mums an hour away and if i dont speak its silence all the way.
I habe spoken to him about it and told him how i feel and he just says "if you want to talk then say something, there is nothing i want to talk about so speak if you want to". I am coming to hate weekend. Its never an atmosphere and we rarely row its just really nothing. When we do chat its fine and he is always lovely its like he just does not need get though how distant he is coming across.
He has no problems chatting with other people and is a very social person it just seems to be with me.
I dont htink he is having an affair and he says he is happy in our marriage but if im honest I hate living like this. I love him and our ds its just the feeling that he sees me not even interesting enough to have a conversation with other than what our ds is up to.
So is this just marriage after 7 years or do we have a problem? Just dreading the weekend coming up 2 days of feeling ignored - great.
Any advice welcome thanks
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Is this a "normal" marriage after 7 years
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Broodymomma · 30/10/2009 09:47
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