DP and me been together for 4 years/living together for 3.
We never ever go out together, not a night out, not to do the shopping, nothing.
When we are in the house, he usually sits in the kitchen watching tv and I sit in the living room.
Don't really chat unless its something about work.
He is very lazy, won't do anything unless he see's im at the end of my patience with him or have gone on constantly about it.
At the weekend, we never do anything as a family, he very occasionally if it suits him takes my ds out (as if he's making a token effort, oh look at me).
He goes out on his own probably once a month but the last time I got a babysitter so we could both go out, he said he would prefer to stay in.
Our sex life is shit.
Nothing happens unless I suggest it and need to blackmail him into doing activities.
Its the general laziness and unwillingness to do anything with me that really gets to me. I know he would happily coast along like this, but im only 33 fgs and I want more out of my family and personal life!
Is this normal, I've really just given up trying now and am thinking of just ending it when our joint debts are paid off (about 6months time) I know this sounds cold, but there is no way I could manage financially on my own without the debt being paid off.
And yes I have had the 'talk' with him on many occasions telling him how I feel, what we can both do to make an effort, but absolutely nothing changes.
Anyone else like this, or is it just me?
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lilacclaire · 29/10/2009 14:40
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