Hi,
I posted a few months ago asking for advice on how to deal with my situation. Very briefly - five months ago my husband told me he didn't love me anymore.It transpired that he had been texting a work colleague and an affair began. He moved out (but left all his things) with a weekend bag and returned every couple of days to see DS/do washing etc then head off (never staying). Even after finding out about the affair that devestated me, I said I could work on forgiving him, took responsiblity for my failings in our relationship, suggested councelling and so on. Husband was not interested.
So, for five months I have worked on building my confidence, keeping things amicable and stable for sake of DS. I'm now used to being alone and apart form the odd blip I'm happier than I have been in years. Out of the blue last night when he was visiting to see DS he was tearful and said if I was willing he wanted to try again. What do I do? I'm so confused. My gut reaction is no way. He's treated me appaulingly, cheated, lied, acted selfishly (lots of details I wont go into). Sex was a huge problem and I don't want to/can't imagine being intimate with him.
BUT....should I try again for the sake of our son. There were some good times shared in the (distant)past and we do have some shared interests. So scared i'll be doing a diservice to my son by not trying again and exploring all avenues.
Does anyone have any similar experience/advice?
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Should I take him back (mainly for dake of DS)?
Charl75 · 28/10/2009 16:38
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