While pregnant with my DD, DH was put into disciplinary proceedings at work. The grounds were shaky and in fairness he stood his ground as we thought they were trying to reduce headcount through bullying rather than go through the proper channels of redundancy etc. In the end he was made redundant (although he'd been there longer than others at the same level etc). Basically I think he'd failed to engage properly with the job ( a professional position) and they were loking for an excuse to get rid. The process took most of my pregnancy and was extremely stressful for us both and traumatic. Eventually he found an alternative position after a few months out of work and started that. He came home a few days ago and confessed to having 'f**ked up' again and now his new emplyer wants to start action to get rid of hime from this job. He has hidden the issues he's been facing from me and in fact we've recently taken on a new mortgage etc and I am returning to work following mat leave next week. This throws everything into jeapoardy and I am completely thrown. I just know he'll be out of work soon - he has been signed off by doc with stress and has been prescribed prozac.
Part of me just wants to hug him and say everything will be ok but another part of me is furious for letting this happen when we'd only just got ourselves on an even keel. I know that there is a lot more to this than the jobs but feel so let down and exposed financially and otherwise. It feels as though I have to do everything, earn the money, care for DD, sort all financial and home stuff out. I am beyond worried and finding it hard to talk about. I can't talk to family about it as I don't want them to think less of him.
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feeling let down by DH (perhaps unfairly) but so low about everything - need advice (sorry long)
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mrsconflicted · 25/10/2009 16:52
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