Oh i can't moan in real life. I have to Grin and Bare It.
My BIL. DHs brother. He is much older than DH. He is 49 i think (DH is 36, i am 32). He hardly knows DH due to a complicated upbringing (he stayed with his greek father, when his mother left, she later had DH from another relationship). There are lots of resentments in his life, he is bitter and twisted and set in his ways. And he is Doing My Skull In. I would like, in an ideal world, to tell him to just go away. But I can't, we have little family. He is Trying (beleive me he is ) and DH wants him to stay in touch. DH feels some kind of obligation to him i think as he (his DB) has no other family apart from him.
Anyway. I just need to list/rant out all the things that are getting to me, so that I do not go "SHUT THE FUCK UP AND GET OUT YOU ARE PISSING ME OFF!!!' I know, i need to learn Tolerance. Its an age thing right? .
- 'i am an electrical engineer by trade you know, i trained for three years, i did it as a job (amongst other things, been unemployed as long as i recall!). Cue attempting to fix our noisy fan in the desk top. This morning. Spent all day defragging - our fault for not doing it is why it took so long, althoug DH insists he did it a few months ago. Could not have, would not take this long if he did, blah blah...'hmm, hmm, i knoooow, its because of xyz'....onwards, getting, by the sound of it, more and more broken...'you haven't turned the power off or anything?'
- He talks, endlessly. He has opinions about everything. He is right about everything. He does not listen to anything anyone else says.
- He slags off MIL, who regardless of his opinion, i rather like. And of course DH loves her. He won't listen to 'can you try to express your opinions without so much hatred?'
- He talks about his x-girlfriend, split with her 5 years ago endlessly, bitterly, angrily. He laughs that she is now 'fat' (or rather, she was too skinny before when she was with him and now more likely her natural size?), but claims he does not care.
- He slags of another BIL. His full brother, DHs half brother (long long story) who lives in USA and who DH happens to get on very well with, only one year older than he). Does not give a toss how DH might dislike it. DH says something and he ignores it, or says 'you don't understand'.
- He smokes like a chimney. He has a bad back, so cannot smoke outside as he can't stand for that long, so sits in a chair by our back door and blows smoke out the door. Of sorts.
- (this should probably be 1). He has a bad back. So, he plonks himself down in the middle of the sofa, feet up on my footstall, laptop on lap, watching tv, because we told DD she could have no tv because of misbehaving. "oh, this footstall is great for my bad back, I have to use this, have one at home, will cripple me otherwise'. so, me 36wks pregnant, squashed into the corner, minus my footstall. Hence i am now in bed.
- 'i cannot sleep on that sofa bed. I considered sleeping on your very comfy leather sofa in the front room, but felt it would make it awkward in the morning for your DD to have nowhere to go, but tonight I might have to, i just cannot sleep on that sofabed'
- 'I am going on sunday, as that is the best day for travelling weather wise. I cannot go before that, so you can get on with you painting when I am gone - i would prefer you don't do any sanding while I am here, as I have asthma' - he was coming down to 'help' decorate, in prep for carpets being laid on wednesday, and a BABY due in less than 4 weeks, only coming for 2 days, turned into 4 said so flippantly too!
10. DD said 'i love you uncle xxx and ran and cuddled him' his response '{chuckles} you don't even know me luv!' she is 3 ffs .
11. He talks loudly.
12. He swears. All the time.
13. He told DH how much' fatter' he was since last time he saw him, and at this rate he will be a fat ball by 50. Then laughed and said he was just trying to shock him into sorting out his weight.
14. He moans about England and how shit it is, and how downhill it has gone - he is half greek, half english, grew up between Greece and Holland until a few years ago! Not complaining at the income he gets from the government though!
15. He does not want to do anything. Beautiful weather out this morning, wanted to take DD on the moors - sure when he wakes up a bit, needs a few hours. By that time it is raining. I go out, and when I get back, he is where he was!!!
16 he and DH are having a bloody ball. I am concerned about the influence here - DH has become a bit testosterone fuelled...he wears the trousers now, apparantly.