I'm going to get flamed but I'd like you all to read this carefully before replying.
My exw, was a bullying, manipulative control freak. I left her because I could take no more of her ways, she regularly slapped, poked, kicked and hit me in niggly little ways or to embarrass me in front of others. Never punched or beat me up as I'm twice her size but enough to belittle me. This wasn't as a result of arguments of me making snidey comments but just because she found it funny or embarrassing for me. Even when she attacked me full on, when i announced that i was leaving her that day, I never hit her. I restrained her and tried to push her away, as our dd (then 3) had come in and was crying. She scratched and bruised my face, shoulders arms and back and threw a stool at me.
My question is this. Physically she's 5ft and I'm 6ft2 and quite stocky. I knew that if I ever hit her she'd have be arrested for assault and that I wouldn't have a leg to stand on. I never ever raised my hands in anger as it isn't my nature. My current dw is of the opinion that some women, like her, deliberately provoke men, like me, as she knew that I'd never hit her. Is there ever any justification for a man hitting a woman? Or do you think it's a no no NO MATTER what the provocation is?
This is a genuine question, I'm not a troll getting off on weird questions. Please don't just say that violence is never the answer, I already know that....
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Is there EVER a situation where a dp/dw/dh deserves a slap?
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HappyDaddy · 14/06/2005 10:17
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