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if your partner let themselves go would it annoy you?

(10 Posts)
allthreerolledintoone Thu 22-Oct-09 19:04:20

i know we all go through changes over the years but if they didnt make the effort to dress nice now and then or get a haircut when needed and just not really care about their appearance.

piscesmoon Thu 22-Oct-09 19:22:08

Yes it would annoy me-is there a reason for it other than laziness?

deste Thu 22-Oct-09 19:23:07

I would lose some of the worst stuff, ie bin it shrink it, anything but just get rid of it and buy new stuff. Depression can cause people to become like that so be carefull.

allthreerolledintoone Thu 22-Oct-09 20:01:25

think dh is maybe a little too content or yes being lazy. Ive hinted that maybe he should make more effort but he thinks its funny. He's not dirty or anything like that but his appearance is very slack. Despite having children and a busy schedule i still try and make the effort. Obviuosly children birth and aging has taken its toll but i still try. Am i being petty here?

cheapskatemum Thu 22-Oct-09 23:01:30

How would he react if you started eyeing up more fanciable men?

jasper Thu 22-Oct-09 23:02:44

Yes it would

EcoMouse Fri 23-Oct-09 02:16:35

No it wouldn't.

I think it would be petty for me to do so.

EcoMouse Fri 23-Oct-09 02:18:02

Does he embarrass you?

choosyfloosy Fri 23-Oct-09 02:29:21

Depends how far it got.

Weight gain no, haircut no (though we have got pretty good at home with the clippers). Failing to wash YES. dh only fails to wash when he is very depressed.

wanttostartafresh Fri 23-Oct-09 18:21:43

Not caring about one's appearance can sometimes be a sign of depression/low self esteem. I would talk to him about it nicely and try and find out if there is some underlying reason for it.

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