I have been more or less single since my son was born 6 years ago, but after much talking to by my friends, I joined a dating agency and was very excited to meet a lovely man.
He is a single dad and has a little boy of 5. After much e-mailing and texting we finally met up a few weeks ago. We were both terrified about seeing each other in real life, but we quickly overcame that and ended up chatting as if we had known each other for years. Rather embarrasingly, we both struggle with finding child care, so both boys came along too and got on fantastically well. (Sadly I think I may have caught a glimpse of what it may be like to be part of a little family and realised how much I have always wanted this).
To cut a long story short, we have continued to text and phone each other, although if I am honest, it now tends to be me that texts or calls first (we speak every couple of days). I have asked him if it's o.k to still contact him and he answers me as if I have asked a silly question, i.e. 'Of course you can?!' and he always texts straight back or returns my calls, so I thought he may be interested, which quite frankly I was really happy about, as I think he is lovely!!
He told me that he was still occasionally checking the dating website but was only ever on for five minutes a night and that as soon as his membership expired he would call it a day.
Last night I was working on my laptop and signed into the website for the first time in a while. I noticed that he was online and didn't think anything of it, however 2 hours later he was still online and tonight he has been logged on for 1.5 hours.
I am the first person to admit that I have been a complete stalker by checking up on him and my only excuse is that I was so weary of being hurt or cheated on again. I text him tonight to say hello and he responded immediately with lots of nice words, etc. while still being online on the dating website).
I am so gutted as I thought that he was a genuine guy. I also feel soooo pathetic, as I have only known him 2 months and there are so many other MNetters who have been much stronger than me in much worse circumstances than only knowing somebody for a short space of time.
So please, give me a pep talk and tell me to pull myself together. I have deleted his number from my phone, next time he can be the one to contact me first. He was so lovely, the whole package, not perfect, but perfect for me?
I know I have no right to be looking him up so early into getting to know him, but I got sucked in and have been proved right? What is there to do on a dating website for 2 hours anyway? How many other ladies must he be in contact with?!
Thank you for reading. I hate feeling sorry for myself but good men are very hard to find here!!
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I need a pep talk as I am being very silly......
SprocketAndTubbs · 21/10/2009 21:33
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