I'm a regular (too regular!) on here but have namechanged to avoid being tracked, hopefully you'll recognise but not out me.
H and I have finally split after many years of marriage, the last year being hellish, with plenty of neglect, emotional abuse and an OW. Now I'm trying to sort things out and plan a future for me and the dc's. H seems to be doing his utmost to manipulate me into doing what he wants - moving near his work (hundreds of miles away from family)and is saying that this is the only way he will give me any support with the dc's, who are still very young and one of whom has some mild SN.
If I do what I planned, and move nearer my own family he says he will not see the dc's more than once a month, so I won't get any time to myself, and even may change jobs to affect my maintenance levels. Much as I hate to give in to his bullying, I worry that he is nasty enough to carry out his threats, and the dc's will not know their father. I really can't believe the man I married is behaving like this, but it's real and I can't stop shaking and crying with stress today. Any advice welcome.
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Oh God, H being such a twunt I really don't know what to do. Feeling a bit desperate. Please help.
toftr · 20/10/2009 13:21
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