...I am thinking that we are quite odd because we NEVER socialise together, other than with DH's family. I would consider myself to be a friendly person and I am frequently out with friends who I know from school days, work, and mummy friends. I have 2 DS's and have met quite a few folks through the kids and tend to go out meeting people during the day / week.
DH has mates but he barely sees them any more. I don't drink so DH barely drinks now so he feels his world is quite different to his old mates now as they are still hitting the pub every week. He goes out to see gigs with some mates but that's on his own as I stay at home with the babies (DS2 exclusively BFing). Our lives just seem quite separate in terms of socialising.
It's been like this for years now and TBH doesn't always bother me but every now and then I think we should have people over at ours for a meal etc but DH seems to bauk at the idea. He isn't that outgoing with people he doesn't know well to the point he comes across as quite stand offish & rude so I don't think my mates jump at the chance of coming over. Plus my close friends aren't really in serious relationships so we can't really do the socialising with couples thing as usually my mates come over on their own. DH can't stand my family either so barely ever visits them with me and always has an excuse to go out when they come over (to be fair they are quite difficult and I would also like to not see them half the time but it does annoy me that he doesn't visit them to support me).
Whenever I've brought all this up we end up arguing as DH doesn't see anything wrong with the status quo. I just don't want my boys to grow up with people barely ever coming over to the house and thinking that mummy and daddy have no collective friends! I love staying in so think we have got into a rut of just enjoying each others company but do you think we sound a bit weird too? We have been together for 10 years and I can't remember the last time we went out with friends other than to a wedding or something.
Anyone else like this or have any advice for me? Thanks
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How much do you & DH/DP socialise with other people as a couple? We barely do, are we freaks?
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ilikeyoursleeves · 20/10/2009 11:01
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