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dont no what to do ...........

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milesysgirl Mon 13-Jun-05 11:24:52

me and my partner have been together for 5 yrs we have 1 ds whos 2 and i think i want to leave my partner , i feel soo bad we r not married and im not on the mortgage am i entitled to ne thing???

kama Mon 13-Jun-05 11:28:36

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rickman Mon 13-Jun-05 11:29:03

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milesysgirl Mon 13-Jun-05 11:30:57

just not really getting on he is always at work just feel like theres no love ne more .how much child mainternance would i get??

starlover Mon 13-Jun-05 11:32:16

mileysgirl... i may be out of order saying this. And I really don't mean to sound nasty...
but you seem far more concerned about how much money you'll get than perhaps the possibility of making your relationship work, the effect it will have on your son etc...

kama Mon 13-Jun-05 11:32:34

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milesysgirl Mon 13-Jun-05 11:35:35

starlover - we have tried and tried and tried at this relationship i was just wondering wat i would be entittled to thats all .

milesysgirl Mon 13-Jun-05 11:41:53

thanks for replying just have to sit down and think about what to do ...

ebbie22 Mon 13-Jun-05 11:47:25

After eveything has been said and done and when you have really made up your mind,then follow your heart and go for it...
At the end of the day I know you would always put yor ds before anyone else,no matter what and i.m.h.o Starlover you were out of order saying that...
Money is a big reason why lots of people stay in a relationship,to give the best start possible and not to upset your children you do need some kind of support,be it money,friends,or as it was just some advice...

ninah Mon 13-Jun-05 11:58:33

agree ebbie
sounds like you've considered the emotional front etc mg and want practical advice from us, of course the money issues are relevant

weesaidie Mon 13-Jun-05 12:04:26

mileseygirl - as far as I am aware you get 15% of your partners income. Obviously you should also get other benefits too (housing benefit/income support etc).

It must be scary when you think you want to leave but are worried about the financial ramifactions, it is a big worry.

If you are really unhappy, not in love etc then you probably should go. I am a single parent and my dd is happy and sees her dad regularly. It is a struggle financially but I am doing fine.

milesysgirl Mon 13-Jun-05 12:12:00

thanks ebbie sory i havnt spoke to you about ill ring you later wgen hes at work ,and thankyou to ninah and weesaidie xx

ebbie22 Mon 13-Jun-05 12:14:40

mg,I know how you feel and if you want some time to urself bring ds around,or come for a cuppa,{everything always seems clearer after a cup of}
But on a ifferent note,have you tried talking to him?

rickman Mon 13-Jun-05 12:16:32

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milesysgirl Mon 13-Jun-05 12:16:52

he doesnt know i want to leave no,but hes so hard to talkn to as soon as i mention anything like that he just flips

milesysgirl Mon 13-Jun-05 12:18:29

got to go now ill be on mn later thanks again everyone xxx

ebbie22 Mon 13-Jun-05 12:24:31

Life is too short to stay with mr wrong,You are still young and you have your whole life ahead of you,you can thank your lucky stars that if you do break up its not as bad if you are not on the morgage{just my h.o}asyou dont have to go legal etc...
I only wish that sometimees I could turn the clock bk and have half the courage you have ight now xxxx

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