have a very close friend, have known her for many years. She is a few years older than me & a bit like an older sister (neither of us have sisters in fact). We are very close, she knows a lot of things about me that no-one else does. She has spent hours on the phone with me when I have had my heart broken & am a sobbing mess, has always been great with my DC etc.
However, I am, and always have been a little scared of her, and scared of pissing her off (she takes offence at certain things, like me not phoning her, quite easily...certainly much more readily than I would)
so, up til a few months ago, we used to speak every day. Then she went on holiday, then I was away (& whilst away had my phone stolen so couldnt call anyone much, as I only had DS's PAYG phone until my contract replacement came through, which for various reasons took weeks), so we didnt speak for a long time. When I got my phone back, I called her & left her a voicemail letting her know & said I would call. However I got totally caught up with other stuff and forgot
for the last 2 weeks since then i have been intending to phone her but keep putting it off cos i know she is going to bollock me for not calling her sooner. Yes I know she could call me, but she won't see it like that! anyway, at the weekend she messaged a mutual friend on facebook something about the importance of maintaining contact etc, which I feel may have been a dig at me
I do know I've been a bit crap, I should have phoned her before now, but the fear of being told off is now delaying me.....please tell me I'm being pathetic & should just call her tomorrow!
she normally does call me- the fact she hasnt is making me think she is v pissed off with me...I dont know if I am scared of her as such, possibly that's not the word, I don't do criticism very well, it upsets me (something to do with being brought up by parents who mostly thought I was perfect I suppose!) & if when I phone her she is a bit snippy/pissed off, I will feel bad about that & it's that reaction that I am scared of...if thats the word.
Does she expect you to speak to her every day? Seems an awful lot to ask of anybody as most have busy lives and lots of calls on their time. I might be tempted to tell her that you were scared to call her and put the responsibility onto her shoulders. I really don't think you should have to feel obliged to do so much, if you are such good friends it should be more flexible and understanding than that.