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my husband has left me for another woman

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loughtongirl Mon 12-Oct-09 20:16:23

My husband waited for me to go to work last week and while i was gone he packed all his belongings and took them to a flat which he had rented. I had absolutely no idea this was coming. We had known each other for 25 years and had been married for 21 of them. He told me that he could no longer live with me because it was killing him. It has since transpire that he is seeing another woman that he met at work. We have a 15 year old daughter who will be taking her gcses this year. At the moment i am not sure i can get myself through this. Any advice would be welcome as i do have a supportive family but no friends,

Drumdrum60 Mon 06-Oct-14 23:04:16

Worry about a social life when you have taken back control and everything is sorted out . Concentrate on you and your daughter first . Don't do anything reactionary. Stay dignified .

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LiberalLibertine Mon 02-Jun-14 03:19:30

You spell the amazing doctors name different each time!? Reported.

possiblyprecious Mon 02-Jun-14 02:39:56

He he!

CarbeDiem Mon 02-Jun-14 02:32:37

How lovely tamirya.hmm


tamirya Mon 02-Jun-14 02:20:50

i never ever believed in spell until i meet a man called Dr Osaze who help me cast a spell that bring back my ex-lover who left me for two years before our marriage,His spells works beyond my imaginations and today i am happily married with two kids and me and my [ex-lover] now husband are very happy more than ever before,what more can i say rather than to say thank you dr ogala for been there for me,contact him today and your life will never ever remain the same his email is spirituallove@hotmail. com, may the lord continue to use you to save people as you did to me, He is the best spell caster that can help you.

And i was just about to post this link to here the OP to show how to do it properly lol

To my mind the agony that ensues from discovering the one you lurve is a total tosspost comes from realisation of the valuable time you've squandered on them.

Agreed. See even zombie threads have their uses smile

izzyizin Sat 06-Oct-12 01:48:20

I missed it, what was it? Send 30/50/100+ quid to have the lying scumbag your dh/dp/bf miraculously restored to your ever loving bosom?

Jeez, if some twunt did the dirty on me in that style I'd pay far more to have them kept away forever.

To my mind the agony that ensues from discovering the one you lurve is a total tosspost comes from realisation of the valuable time you've squandered on them.

Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 01:31:06

That is, the HUSBANDS think they are the only ones in the world who have ever gone through the "agony" of true love, not the wives who really do have the agony.

Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 01:30:06

Interesting though, this thread is very similar to another ongoing thread about an MNer who came home to find her H had left for another woman, clearing out most of the house in the process.

And yet they all think that they are the only ones to go through the "agony" of this shit hmm

GrimAndHumourless Sat 06-Oct-12 01:27:05

oh my, Zombie Thread and Spellcastings

Seen it ALL now

mum11970 Sat 06-Oct-12 01:21:59

So sorry Hun. You dh sounds like a coward going through a mlc. Do let the school know what is going on for your dd's. Let your friends know, join a gym and go along to classes, you'll soon make friends at women based classes like step and LBT, and just going out and exercising will make you feel so much better.

QuintessentialShadows Sat 06-Oct-12 01:10:57

What a great zombie thread.

I too can create ever lasting love (at least sexual passion) through baking cookies on menstrual blood and semen, and getting the two to eat it.

See, I can tell you this without charging a penny. DNA from both, together with herbs, in water, facing north, in a jar, or mug, in a quiet room, and whohei! Babies. Incantations are needed.

Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 01:08:02

YOu gotta give these spammers their due, trawling for a 2009 thread in order to advertise the wonderful spell casting abilities of The Great Wizardo does show commitment!

Dryjuice25 Sat 06-Oct-12 01:06:15


Dryjuice25 Sat 06-Oct-12 01:04:17

Fantastic advice from Countingto10

QueenieLovesEels Sat 06-Oct-12 00:46:24


MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour Sat 06-Oct-12 00:29:53

Spell caster? What the actual fuck?!

A zombie thread advertising a spell caster, thats got to be a first hmm grin

I hope the op from 3 years ago is in a happy place in her life now

Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 00:22:58


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magpumpkin Fri 16-Oct-09 13:01:45

Loughtongirl, this was me 10 years ago. My EXH had moved me and our DS 4yrs old 100 miles from my job & friends to a new area as we would be "bettering ourselves propertywise". Don't get me wrong it was a lovely new house and I thought we could be really happy there, he would still work in our old town but commute(shift worker who could stay in the firestation during shift hours), but 2 months later he tells me over the phone that he doesn't love me anymore and had not loved me for 2 years. WTF... we only got married 18 months earlier after spending 10 years together. At his insistance I might add. I wrote him 1 letter asking to give it another go. No reply. I never asked again. To much pride. I found out he had another women and had already moved in with her back in our old town. (Hence the move). It took me about a month to find a job, I was lucky my DS had just started school so I met some lovely mothers who once they heard my news rallied around me. It will take time to get over the shock and utter bewilderment that someone you loved could hurt you so badly. But it does ease. Just be strong. I sold the house and bought my DS and me a smaller house. My EXH said soon after I chased him for maintence for our son that "it's alright for you - you have a lovely little property when all I have is a rented house" that may I add made my year. The grass is not always greener. 10 years down the line I have met and married a wonderful man and now have a DD also. EXH still has contact with DS but still can't look me in the eye when we meet. Karma I say....

loughtongirl Fri 16-Oct-09 12:14:51

Thanks for all the kind messages of support. Just taking each day at a time and hopefully i can come out of this sane.

starwhoreswonaprize Wed 14-Oct-09 15:03:46

Make plans assuming the worst, that he'll take all the money and house....ensure he cannot.
I'm really sorry.

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