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can i get some un mumsnetty hugs and sympathy please

(140 Posts)
Mamazonabroomstick Mon 12-Oct-09 18:58:35

think its all over with DP.

I am heartbroken.
I feel sick and just want to bursdt into tears.
Can't really be that open with rl friends as im the "strong one" that doesn't really get effected by this sort of stuff.

don#t get me wrong they know im hurting and they are sympathetic but all they keep saying is that i can do better.

Yes of course i can. but i didn't want to.

Its all just so horrible

megcleary Mon 12-Oct-09 18:59:57

sending <<< hugs >>>

seeyounexttuesday Mon 12-Oct-09 19:00:04

oh shit. sorry to hear that.

<<<<<huge un mnly hugs and pats on the back>>>

You will survive. It may feel really awful now, but believe me, you will come through, stronger x

cocolepew Mon 12-Oct-09 19:00:13

Sorry to hear this mamazon.

ArizonaBarker Mon 12-Oct-09 19:00:46

What's happened?

Tell us if you can't tell them.

hugs but don't tell anyone.

ChasingSquirrels Mon 12-Oct-09 19:01:11

sorry to hear this, was it something you saw coming?

lots of hugs

overmydeadbody Mon 12-Oct-09 19:02:48

<<big un-mn hug>>

I know it doesn't mean muvh now, but things will get better and easier.

Talk about it on here.

norksonmywitchesbroomstick Mon 12-Oct-09 19:04:10

Sorry you are going through this, the end of any relationship is an emotional rollercoaster

<hugs>but don't tell anyone

FABIsInTraining Mon 12-Oct-09 19:06:02

Do better?

I thought you were all loved up?

sad

YouLukaAmazing Mon 12-Oct-09 19:06:16

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ScaryFucker Mon 12-Oct-09 19:12:17

awww, mamazon, you sound very hurt and alone

sorry to hear this

look after yourself x

RealityBites Mon 12-Oct-09 19:13:12

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PoisonToadstool Mon 12-Oct-09 19:15:33

sorry mamazon

V un-mn hug

Mamazonabroomstick Mon 12-Oct-09 19:19:48

he has basically been making a total mug of me for ages but i have tried to convince myself it wasn't true.

I namechanged recently to post THIS

then there was This

then he got kicked off facebook. well i found out saturday night that the reason he got kicked off was because he has been trying to add hundreds of women at once.
it would seem he has joined big boob groups or whatver and tried to friend request all the members.

Its just one betrayal too far. he claims that he hasn't done that and that Facebook must be mistaken.

I just can't believe he would have done this too me again after i forgave him those last two times.

I honestly believed he loved me and wouldn't do anything to hurt me deliberatly.

i was obviously wrong and just being taken for a mug.
I think its the shame at being so very very worng again that hurts as much as the pain of it all being over.
It was only friday i was telling an old work friend how lovely he was and how happy he made me

TheCrackFox Mon 12-Oct-09 19:20:55

Have a hug from me too.

It might be a good idea to off load on mumsnet.

seeyounexttuesday Mon 12-Oct-09 19:29:51

so did you tell him it was over, or vice versa?

mummyplonk Mon 12-Oct-09 19:32:51

Blimey Mamazon, sounds like you have forgiven him for so much already, dont you feel any shame. It may be the hardest thing you ever to to leave him, but unfortunately it may be the best as well. You sound like a lovely person, and you deserve someone who most importantly you can trust, for years, who wont break it in the first 10 months.

Mamazonabroomstick Mon 12-Oct-09 19:33:05

I have told him.

Lizzylou Mon 12-Oct-09 19:36:13

I think you've done the right thing, hope you're OK.
YOu know you are better off without him.

There is nothing wrong with you, just perhaps a bad un slipped under the radar.

You will find someone who is NOT a lying cheat, someone who will worship you and be faithful in mind, body and soul.

Which is all you deserve.

itsmeolord Mon 12-Oct-09 19:37:20

I'm so sorry, you have done the right thing though.
Have a manly slap on the shoulder and a secret hug.

Mamazonabroomstick Mon 12-Oct-09 19:38:16

im at a stage where i just dont think i can do it again.
I'd rather stay single for the rest of my life.

Dc's dad beat the shit out of me and was abusive in every way possible. it took me 5 years to reach a stage where i could trust a man again and he has done this to me.

I clearly cannot be trusted to chose a man for myself.

FABIsInTraining Mon 12-Oct-09 19:42:52

Bloody hell!

You know you have done the right thing, don't you? I read those 2 threads and would never have guessed it was about you and your man.

So sorry.

<counts> I had 4 bad boys before I met my DH. Don't give up.

supersalstrawberry Mon 12-Oct-09 19:45:10

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EdgarAllenPoo Mon 12-Oct-09 19:48:23

poor you Mamazon

RealityBites Mon 12-Oct-09 19:48:52

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