To try to counteract the negativity in one of the threads in this talk (which many of you will recognize), I would like to invite you to think about the loveliest, most beautiful comment your partner/husband has ever said to you.
I will start with mine:
We had been talking about something that once happened to me, when I thought I had a very serious disease and few weeks to live, and how I had been planning to spend my savings going to Disneyland (I was obviously very young when that happened . Just to continue the conversation, I turned to my DP and asked him: "so, if you had only some weeks to live, what would you do?". He thought about it for a short while, then looked and me, and said: "I would ask you to marry me".
We had only been together by few months back then. It took me a while to be able to say anything.
Come on everyone, let us all hear the words from your partners that proof that some men are good at making us feel great
When DH and I had been together a few months, we were preparing for his 30th birthday party. Twas late at night, and we were getting angry with each other (over something stupid like the music play list) and ended up having our first fight. I went to bed in a mood, but can remember DH coming over and cuddling me when he thought I was asleep, and saying "I want to spend the rest of my life with you, and grow old together".
DP when I was feeling fat low and he was at work on a night shift, came home early with a ring, I was in bed, he slipped in bed beside me took my hand and put the ring on my finger saying. "Tles, I love you for you, I love your body, mind and soul, I love every inch of you and want to marry you"
I had the biggest smile on my face for days lol....if only the bitch would divorce him we could get married
i can't think of anything specific, he's just lovely all the time, totally happy to be a totally equal and wonderful parent to our dd and utterly supportive of my career in a difficult to suceed-takes over your life kind've industry. hes a really wonderful and selfless man and seeing him and dd together makes my heart fit to burst
I would be lost without you in my life... that sticks out in my mind. Also not long after we had got together me asking him what he wanted in life (via MSN) and he wrote 'to be your husband' gave me goosebumps.
He has said many kind and lovely things over the years and very few rotten ones.
I was in the bathroom the other day, just finished cleaning my teeth and dh came up to me and gave me a hug and said, "I love you, Im so glad you married me and am really pleased we are having our second child together." I actually welled up, but he is a sweetie most of the time.
This one sticks out in the memory because it was only the other day. I sent an email to DP, at work, thanking him for his help and support over some stuff that he's been really very patient and helpful with and he replied:
I suffer from depression and a chronic illness and my husband often has to look after me, give me pep talks, mop up tears etc. I feel very guilty about this. One day I was crying on him saying that I didn't give him anything in the relationship and why would he want to be with me when i'm so miserable all the time etc etc
He gave me a massive hug and said '..because all these bad days pale into insignificance when you have a good day. I'd rather have 2 good days a month with you than a million 'all right' days with anyone else'
DH says lovely things to me all day every day as he's a soppy git. Back in the days before having children when I could stay awake for more than 5 minutes once in bed, I'd hear him talk to me while he thought I was asleep.
The one thing that stands out though is after watching a terrible film about some people stranded in the snow who had to resort to cannibalism. I asked him if it was us in that situation and I died of exposure, would he eat me. He said no, he'd lie down beside me, hold me tight and die himself. Which sounds utterly corny and perhaps a little weird but was extremely sweet.
BEAUTIFUL: no, that possibility did not cross my mind, and it was definitely not the way he said it. Why on earth would I want to turn something beautiful he told me into something negative?
If he thinks he has years, and he feels like marrying me, he will choose the most appropriate moment to ask me. We've just been together for 9 months and he still has not got the divorce from his wife... not the ideal situation. But if it happens, I will come back and let you know ;)
For the time being, I recommend you to enjoy the nice things in life instead of trying to twist them. That's what positivity is all about!