Going to try and keep this succint - but so much to say.
I have posted on here before, first about suspecting my H of having ana affair, then when he confessed and promised to change and that he wanted to be with me forever.
He moved out about 8 weeks ago, staying nearby with a friends. I was angry at first, then calmed down and decided to make a go of it, for myself and our dd. (We moved here a year ago - miles from family and friends, close to his job). It was hard at first, he felt crushed - had no space, that's why affair started.
Now he says he loves me, i am important, but he does not see our marriage working. He still loves the other woman, i suspect as much as me, although he says it is over between them, and she hates him. He won't go to marriage counselling - just wants to give up.
Says will support me until i decide to move back nearer family.
He clearly has issues with growing up, hates birthdays, hates responsibilty in personal life (but has a responsible job).
My dd is the happiest child ever, nearly 2 now. But tonight i cried constantly in front of her - as all this came to fruition by text messages from him - he didn't even have the decency to come over to do it - he did it by text.
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My Husband has left me
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megmums · 07/10/2009 22:21
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