I have been in an emotionally abusive relationship for 9 years. Things have been getting worse and worse and probably reached an all time low when I was pregnant with DS, now 18 months when DH bullied me relentlessly. I was on the verge of leaving this summer but on the day I had an appointment with my solicitor to discuss separating, I found out I was pregnant with DC2. After much agonising, we decided jointly to keep the baby and do the relationship struggled on. A few months later though I am just at breaking point, again, as DH's behaviour is just appalling. He has always been completely selfish, difficult and nasty but also has various obsessive compulsive disorders which just make day to day life with him impossible. He constantly throws away my possessions (the latest victim being all my materity appointment cards and notes etc) and goes crazy if there is any mess in the house which is sort of inevitable with an 18 month old and a nanny share based at our house. Just so sick of coming home from a knackering job, spending ages tidying up then getting bawled out for one toy being out of place. He also goes crazy if I try to do anything to the house or if I buy the wrong bread! I earn substantially more than him and arguably pay more in terms of bills etc so it's not like I am spending his or even our money. Everything is such a struggle and involves an argument and just can't face it anymore. I also think that the constant aggression and abuse has destroyed any feelings I may have had for him so I don't actually think I love him anymore and want to try and end things as smoothly as possible. He is thinking of taking a new job in the US next year - I am refusing to go and just praying that he goes and leaves us here. We would of course have to live together until May when he leaves - does anyone have any experience of doing this and can I formalise the arrangement by having my solicitor write to him? Is there also anything I can do to keep him from throwing my possesions away?
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