Hi. Sorry this is long, and I'm quite new to this site.
I've have struggled with this all my life and I feel constantly 'gutted' that I just can't seem to 'fit in'.
I'm, as a lot of men say, very female, although I do have a logical mind. I'm not hugely expressive when it comes to emotions, but I do deeply feel them, and empathise with others massively.
I think my issue could be to do with the fact I had no mother and only brothers, and I had no other females in my life. I then went to college and was the only girl on my course. I was one of two girls on my Uni course (she was very popular, I wasn't!) and then every job I've had, I've been the only female.
I do try to get on with women, but I can honestly say, there are no women in my life who I can call and go for a drink with. I see others meet and form friendships with each other, but I just seem to be left at the small talk stage, and sometimes it degrades into nothing at all and I'm ignored.
I do think there's something wrong with me, but I just don't know what. It's really getting me down as I feel very alone. I have some male friends, but when they get married or heavily involved in a relationship, I understandably get pushed aside. For some reason a lot of people think you're sleeping with men when you're just friends with them.
Anyway, I'm getting very down now about it. I have 3 children, including a baby and I spend every single day, evening and night alone, when my partner's not here, which is a lot. Yet I'm a friendly, sociable person and very much interested in a lot of things women are.
My brothers live far away and I still feel very much like a stranger to this town, after being here 9 years.
I don't want to be this alone for the rest of my life, but I also don't want to seem desperate! I just want to belong to a social group, and would love to be able to fit in with other women. Any advise would be great. If not, then at least I've got it off my chest for today.
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How can I get on with other women?
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