Is it a totally daft reason to leave someone over?
The past few years our sex life has gone down the pan. At the moment we are lucky to have sex once every 1-2 months which really isn't enough for me as I have a high sex drive. Last time we managed the deed he told me 'to hurry up as he couldn't really be bothered and was tired'
He thinks I place too much importance on sex (I probably do a bit) but we've talked and I've explained it's the closeness and intimacy I miss more than anything. He said sex isn't important to him.
He's not affectionate in any way. I can't even remember the last time we kissed. The more he rebuffed me, the more I've drawn myself away from him and it's put a wall between us that I don't know how to bring down.
Last week I talked to him about how it's tearing us apart but he's done nothing about it. I'm a really tactile person, my whole family is, and I hate being in a relationship where there's no touching or cuddling. It feels strange and unnatural to me.
There's nothing wrong with him physically. I've caught him on watching porn loads of times so it's not like he doesn't feel the need. Just not with me.
I don't know what to do as he's a good, kind man in every other way.
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I am considering leaving dp over his lack of interest in sex and affection
pandaiis · 03/10/2009 20:46
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