Thats it really. I am fed up of just about everything about him. His attitude towards me stinks. He acts as though he hates me and everything I do is set just to inconvinience him, even to the time I cook his dinner for him. His drinking is too much, he got drunk every night he was off work last rota, home, alone late at night, after I had gone to bed. I don't fancy him.
He does next to nothing with our 7 month old DS, even to bath him I have to argue that yes he does need one. He feels he works full time and shouldn't have to do anything at home. I feel that bathing our son should be a pleasure.
I have been on maternity leave and he has not given me a penny. I have no money and he just tells me to go back to work. I am waiting for my application process to go through and just have to wait. He has spent over £250 on 'boys toys' for himself. But can't afford to support me. Nor can he afford to buy our DS a safety gate which we need (he is crawling) as his friend is coming down for a p*ss up this weekend. He is out in the pub now, his first day off since Friday, he works 12 and a half hours days and nights, so when he is at work I just don't see him. Nor does DS.
I have been avoiding him. Going out when he is home, generally trying to live my own life. He dosen't seem to care. He was only supposed to be in the pub for one, always the story. I had prepared his favourite food for supper tonight, before I knew he was going to the pub. I told him it would be ready at nine. He says he will eat it cold.
My parents are divorced and I wanted nothing more than a complete family unit for DS. He deserves nothing less. But this isn't the man I met. He has no respect for me and dosen't think he has to change. My opinions and attempts at resolving things fall on deaf ears. What else can I do when my thoughts and feelings just aren't important to him?
I don't know what I will do or where I will go or how I will ever afford to do it. But I can't carry on living like this. Our last piece of furniture arrived yesterday, our new home is finally up together. But it seems neither of us want to be in it.
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Another one of those I've told DP I want to leave threads.
Flossam · 08/06/2005 20:51
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