Can I let off some steam?
Im not expecting anyone to totally understand this as their is a big history with some of this which makes me maybe overreact or feel a bit skewed in my feelings but can I just rant and hopefully it will make me process my thoughts and feel slightly less cross?
So DH announces on a phone call I made to him at around 6.30pm last night that he is in the pub near work.... well cheers for that, thanks for letting me know earlier. So I put the kids to bed whilst consoling them for not seeing their Daddy at bedtime, fair enough I guess...
So I settle down to my choice of tv and dinner, all is fine till H then rings around 7.45 and says he is on his way back home but calling in at a local pub to have a drink with my dad as its his bday tomorrow... ok....So I guess I expect him to be home within an hour and feel pleased as we have not seen much of him this week
I have heard nothing by 10 pm and head to bed, by midnight I am starting to get worried and my imagination starts going combined with tiredness I work myself up and think something has happened, I am about to go downstairs to phone him but DS wakes up and need to sort him out. By 1pm when he strolls through the door I am feeling pretty peed off and then miffed as he does not come upstairs but sits and plays on the computer ?? He appears in bed at 5.30am this morning ( presumably fell asleep on settee) I am so cross for a number of reasons....
1, I am building a relationship with my dad after years of neglect but yet he has an instant one with my H preferring nights ( and meals) out with him instead of me ans H knowing how this makes me feel is acting as if there is no problem in it...
2, The complete lack of respect my H treated me with by not letting me know what the plans were, letting me know he was ok/safe general stuff that we normally do when out...
3,He was out with my dad and his girlfriend ( same age as me) who I am getting increasingly sick off feeling left out of the jokes,nights out, meals out etc... Im left at home caring for our children, always get left out and am fecking fed up about it
Ok so Im identifying with jealously but I think its acceptale, I am feeling so fed up this morning I cant even bring myself to talk to my dad to say Happy Birthday or my H ( who is at work)
Urggh help me calm down please. H left knowing I was upset but his immediate reaction to that is to get angry at me and spent what time he was here slagging me off iindirectly to the children ( makes my blood boil)
Please be gentle.
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Gravitygirl · 03/10/2009 08:13
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