I met a lovely guy 3 years ago. Within a couple of months of dating though I didn't feel 'sure' about him but he was very handsome, kind, intelligent and amazing with my DD.
We moved in together a year later and then he bought a huge house for us all to live in.
It felt like a disaster from the off. I never felt that 'connected' with him and found him aloof, non-affectionate and cold. I started to feel like he wasn't 'on my side' in life. .( perhaps it was his immense stress at work, or an illness he was struck with?)
I tried to break it off with him a few times but he always suddenly seemed so devastated I went back. Then I lost my job and my dad died suddenly and he became a bit of a rock to me. But weeks after dad's death I moved out ( and we carried on seeing each other) and I felt so happy to have my space back.
Then I was being chased by a man who seemed infatuated by me and was all the things exP wasn't ( funny, good conversationalist, etc) and I found the courage to end it.
Now six months on wonder what I've done. I have almost no family ( my dad was my rock), few friends close by, rocky job situation and have never felt so low and lonely in my life.
I was beginning to regret ending it with him as I've been on a few dates with god-awful men, and started to only see exp's good points now. Then he dropped bombshell he'd met someone else.
This has been unbearably painful for me. I've tried to not say anything, but finally cracked and have asked him back.
He says he's going to think about it........
I'm in such turmoil as I really want him back on one hand but feel scared and selfish about what I've done. Is it just a fantasy that people can change? Should I just let him go? Please help me sort out my life.
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littlestmummystop · 30/09/2009 21:31
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