How does anyone else deal with it? Have posted a couple of times on things relating to my alcoholic DM but have reached the end of my tether.
I've done all I feel I can - have attended a residential family programme (leaving my 8 month old Dd1 to do so), Al Anon etc etc for about the last 3 years in an attempt to keep her in our lives and minimise the impact her drinking has on us.
Anyway, after yet another drama I wrote to her last week (very nice letter under the circumstances saying we love and support her but she has to chose to put her recovery first and my priority has to be my children -DD1 is 3 and have 4 month old twins).
She finally phoned last night to say she has been to see an alcohol counsellor (who is wonderful - generally it seems because she told her how brave she was etc) and whose approach is totally different to AA and who says the tough love approach is completely inappropriate and what she really needs is lots and lots of support and it is very unfair of anyone to kick someone when they are down(which clearly I'm not giving her).
Feeling really angry/stressed/upset and don't know what to do really. Sorry needed to vent as couldn't sleep after phone call and breastfeeding the twins so knackered. All out of patience with the whole thing (and apparantly I am a very patient person usually).
So how does anyone else cope?? (I should also point out that she has been through this other organisation in the past and thought they were totally useless!)
I think I need to minimise contact but then don't know how I'd handle the guilt.
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At wits end dealing with alcoholism
magnummum · 29/09/2009 12:52
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