nooooo! its too soon. Give yourself a break. You are probably still a bit traumatised on some level - how on earth are you supposed to feel in the mood? 3 weeks is quite soon even if you had no problems.
I had a retained placenta which had to be manually extracted - it took a while for my brain to stop associating my nether regions with the rather ghastly images that left me with...
scroobiuspirate...oh god now im panicking!!!! ok think i will wait and ask my doc at my 6 week check when its a good idea to try and try!
with my first i think we were at it by a week or so after...completely straight forward birth no complications and i felt ready! DH was the one who said no last night cos i was soooo tense! lovely DH!!!
I think that perhaps some women are subconsciously under pressure to get the "business as usual" sign up again as soon as possible.
Actually, they may be putting themselves under that pressure because that's what they think their men want and/or expect of them, even if they don't...?
Perhaps they feel that if they don't get back to it again pronto they'll morph into some sort of mumsy, frumpy frigid type and their men will tire of waiting and go off looking for it elsewhere...?
I agree, it's ridiculous to be at it like rabbits when your body needs that vital time to repair itself. And it's crazy to be doing it when you've had a vaginal birth with complications - do you really want to do yourself some potentially lasting damage?
Aren't we supposed to be one step up from animals?
Calm your skin down and wait until you're ready to do it safely and in a way you'll both enjoy.