This is probably better for a Friday night thread but desperately need some feedback on this. Have name changed.
Started seeing a new man a few weeks back and last week had sex for the first time with him.
Sex was pretty good but I was slightly taken aback to find that he has completely bald nether regions He has a hairy chest and arms but his 'bits' are totally bald.
Now, I wasn't overly put off and having not had that many sexual partners I wasn't sure if this was 'the norm' these days
However I mentioned it to a couple of friends - one of whom is VERY liberal minded and both were quite taken aback and thought that I should be careful as this could signal maybe odd sexual fetishes etc
Now my mind is on overdrive and I'm not sure what to do. He seems normal, maybe a bit full on but nothing untoward and the sex was good and 'normal' too.
I would find that very unnattractive I think. And quite strange that he wanted that bit shaved without anything else. But I guess it's his choice. I'd want to know why he wanted it done - just out of curiosity really.
Increasingly common, especially among younger blokes. Some say oral sex feels better that way or hope it makes it more pleasant for the partner. Influence of porn probably I suppose where pubic hair seems a rarity. Just one of several behaviours that would have seemed pretty "out there" twenty years ago but now are considered common or garden (or no garden infact ) very early in a relationship.
mrsboogie - there are lots of salons offering "back, sack and crack" waxes these days. Sure it must hurt like hell but blokes are increasingly being as conditioned to be unhappy with what they've got naturally as women have been for decades. I've seen articles in lads mags like fhm and nuts discussing waxing vs trimming
It's a brave man who would have the balls to go into a beauty salon to get a back, sack and crack without looking like they were a porn star or plain pervy and getting a kick out of the young ladies doing that to them.
All I can say is - bleurghhhhh! Wrong wrong wrong, and genitally bald women look equally as hideous. I was so relieved not have to shave my hubby for his snip, just gave him a neat trim - it did stop those 3 inch long pubes you sometimes get in your teeth though. If a little bit of hair spoils your sexual pleasure then you're doing it all wrong!
maybe it's a hygiene thing for him? maybe he prefers less hairy nether regions?
I once had a Brazilian wax as a dare. It hurt like you wouldn't believe, but I'd have to say that I felt a lot cleaner when I got my period that month. Mind you, not so very clean that I booked another Brazilian. No siree.
His preference is his preference, I suppose. The time to worry would be if he started to dictate to you what you should be doing?
Can you ask? But then I tend to think talking about sex fixes most issues. I haven't seen it but also not massively experienced, and I really hate the concept of women having to shave or wax their genital areas.
So, it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me but I would ask.