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Hther · 23/09/2009 21:56

doesn't wash, doesn't clean his teeth, when he goes to the toilet he manages to get it on the floor, and wall and reamining toilet roll as well as over the toilet

has midnight feasts of crisps and chocolate so i come down to empty crisp packets, coke cans, milky way wrapper

says its ok, i'll do the washing up, put rubbish out, etc then doesn't tell you he hasn't so you find it hours later its not been done

insists on going shopping for you then forgets the list or takes it but still forgets half the things, comes back moaning he's tired, when you've been left with 4 young children running ragged and you've had no sleep the night before, doesn't give you the change, then moans when you ask for it

borrows money from you and takes months to pay you back then when you finally pluck up courage to ask for it he gets grumpy

promises to leave the washing to you, after melting your clothes in the tumble dryer, putting lights and darks together and not dealing with dtains, then does it again, promises not to again, then does it again, promises not to again then does it again, etc etc then flies off the handle when you moan about yet more ruined clothes, says he'll pay for them when he knows that he has no money, and in any case they no longer sell that item or its sentimental value as a loved one bought it

despite the above, on the one occasion that you mess up the washing by melting the numbers on his football shirt in the dryer, you have to hide upstairs from him

is the most terrifying person in the world if the telly stops working, and yet wants more and more channels but is late paying you for the sky bill, moans wehen you try to hurry him up with the money, and won't pay a penny towards the TV licence, even though you wouldn't have a telly at all if he wasn't around

if turned down for a job moans like mad, talks in threatening way towards the interviewer, then rips up all his other application forms saying he doesn't want a job anyway

manages to crack the hose on every vacuum vacuum cleaner he uses, very soon after buying it, and even manages to break 3 tin openers in a fortnight

just doesn't get the hang of putting irons / chemicals etc up out of reach

thinks its hilarious if someone falls and hurts themself / steps on a plug pin side up etc but god help you if you laugh at his pain

if he feels slightly stessed by job centre staff when signing on, says oh, they can stick it, will cancel my claim, don't need money, it will mean i don't get housing ebnefit but i will give the house up anyway, don't need anywhere to live, would rather be homeless

calls other people mad but if you say he's disturbed he will say you're not a psychiatrist you can't say that, or says don't push me, i'm sick of you saying that, then next time says i don't care what you say anymore, then next time says stop calling me that

keeps messing things up then gets angry with you for moaning at him, then says i don't care how much you moan and then threatens you to stop moaning

says he can't wait to get away from you, you're horrible and you ahve messed his life up but you left him and he followed you, then walked out again, then came back again, got upset that you leave him or ask him to leave

messes you about constantly, keeps changing his mind

smashes his mobile phone cos you've moaned at him, when you say that was silly, he says no i didnt want a phone anyway, then asks you to lend him money for a new phone and he will pay you back next week, months later you ask him for money he gets cross, but hemoans about teh neigbour who borrowed money taking 3 weeks longer than he said to pay you back

says you go where you ike but children stay with me, then says he doesnt want teh children, then says they are better off with out him, then says he has a right to have them then walks out then comes back then when you leave he says you ahve taken his family

steals money from you, when sorting out your spare room, says how wonderful he is to sort your room out then asks why you haven't bought the printer you wantes, you say its cos you lost so much money from the spare room, he says i'll buy you one the, says he got money from cashpoint that day and when the bank statement comes showing no transaction the whole month, goes mad when you ask him about it

keeps giving children unhealthy food when he knows how you feel about taht and then says he wont do it again but himself only eats junk

never has any money to help with gas, water etc but can afford take aways every night and sky tv and football shirts when you shop at primark or charity shops

makes fun of your cooking but he cant even cook pasta

ridicules you in front of everyone but don't you dare do that to him

rings you evry 5 minutes to be nasty when hes annoyed but the next day when you have 3 mnissed calls from him and try to ring him bac he tells you to stop bothering him or he'll change his number

says how good he is for cooking for the children when you dont manage it very often but its always chicken dippers, smilies and frozen peas

breaks something of yours and blames you for making him stressed

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abroadandmisunderstood · 23/09/2009 22:03

Hther, I don't know this man. I recognise a few elements from my DH but your description of a man has made me tearful.

This is your partner? Are you ok?