Met a wonderful guy in the summer. Went on about five dates, he stayed over twice.
I really felt like I was falling for him....
Then he goes abroad for a few days, doesn't call me. I sense he's cooling off. Then he changes arrangement to see me in a phone call, saying he's having a terrible time at work, in a bit of a state, feeling depressed blah blah.
Then he never calls or contacts me again.Until now.
Yep two months later he sends an apologetic text to say, it would be good to talk, he's behaved like an absolute twat and he'd like to try and explain himself. . .
Hmmm I would be tempted to say not but my ex (kids) dad had a similar situation with his now dp, she did this to him and now they are happily living together. I think I might be tempted to here him out find out what his reasons were and if it was a load of BS then would get rid but if he is genuine then one last chance. If you don't at least hear him out you might always wonder. We all make mistakes.
I haven't seen or heard from him at all in two months !!
I've been off out, dating other people, and just trying to forget about the whole thing ( it took a few weeks to be honest as I was pretty upset)
He seemed like a real gent when we met. V thoughtful, considerate etc. so was VERY surprised when he started not ringing me and cut all contact. I thought it was just very disrespectful, but understand some men can't face the confrontation of ending something, so just don't bother. . . .
If you really felt like you were falling for him and you think he might be someone special then I would give him a chance. It will be one evening of your entire life and he might actually have something to say that makes sense.
If I had 5 dates with someone then they went cold - well it wasn't a long relationship and you date to get to know if you like someone so there you go.
If they then got back in touch and said they wanted to explain why they had fizzled out - well hay we wern't going steady we were just testing the water no biggy if the water wasn't the right temperature and no I wouldn't want to sit down and have another date or start up again.
I would want to be with someone that was into me, into me so much that whatever was stressing the contact didn't fizzel out over two months - so no byy bye.
tbh I think he was playing away/around and op maywell be second fiddle and i just wouldn't want that niggling in the back of my mind ta but no thanks.