Was with a man for a year, 6 years ago. He was married but I didn't know for 10 months. He was a very good liar. When I found out, I finished it.
He came back with promises that he would leave. I got suckered for 2 more months but refused to be intimate in any way, phone contact only, him kept saying he wanted to be with me, I even went with him to look at flats, met his family. He had never lived alone and wanted to move in with me but I said he needed to live alone before we ever got to that stage. It soon became apparent he wasn't about to leave so I did the decent thing and walked away. Then followed a few months of almost stalker like behaviour, begging me to reconsider so I changed phone numbers, email, etc so he couldn't contact me. Hurt like hell but no way would I be mistress knowingly
So come to the begining of this year and I get a facebook message. He's now divorced and married to someone else. He wanted to apologise for treating me so badly. Which he did and I left it at that. He didn't suggest any friendship or contact, and I was more than happy with that
No contact since until today
I get a phone call. His 2nd marriage has now ended. He is living alone, in his own place. More apologies and talk of how he has been in counselling address a number of issues. He would like to meet for a coffee, catch up
I took his number but haven't given him mine. I don't know what to do!!! I loved him, he hurt me and his 1st wife. He's proved to be a good liar and I don't know if he still is
Would I be totally stupid to give him number and meet up again?? Or should I just forget again
I'm in the phone book in my maiden name, which he knew
He says 1st left him because of me, how shit do I feel over that one! and 2nd left him for someone else in march (karma!)
Apart from the obvious lies about being single, I trusted him about everything else. I don't know how he kept everything secret as like I said I met his parents and his sister all those years ago and it was accepted I was his girlfriend. Only one who didn't know was the wife. The whole family were in on it.
I know I should walk away, it's all so out of the blue and I do remember being very happy, ignorant but happy
Well the fact that he cheated to his wife and lied to you about being married is bad enough. But it's the stalker-like behaviour that makes me think you should not ever respond to any contact from him.
Focus on the angry. I don't know about you, but I'd much rather be lonely than settle for the cheating loser which he obviously is.
And he called because he knows you're a safe bet. You don't care that he has cheated - or so he thinks. Why wouldn't he want you? He'll be able to cheat on you and then turn around when he is caught and say "You knew what I was like".
FFS don't go there. He just wants his dinner cooked and his dick sucked and his ego stroked. He's probably lost his looks or is losing them by now, last wifey will have either caught him shagging around or realised he's an arse for some other reason and slung him out. So he's thought, oh, hang on, ATM's a reasonable shag and a good cook and all that, I can probably persuade her that she was The One really, and she's probably desperate if she's still single...
How do you get out there if all your friends are in couples and don't go out much??
I've tried internet dating but all I have come across are more married men and people who only want sex. I only seem to get messaged by the above or men of pakistani/indian cultures and I just don't find them attractive (sorry if this offends) I get lots of messages from men in Turkey and Nigeria too. I'm a fat person and most men don't want to date someone that shops in Evans
I'm 42, my kids are all over 15 years old, they are out every night having a blast, I'm at homne like an 80 year old woman
I want to be held, to have a conversation, snog and shag, not watch CSI on ukliving every night