Bit of a long one but its super stressing me out!
Im 23 been with my DP who is 24 for a year and im 17+3.
Out of my mum and dad i thought my dad would flip, but my mum went mental and very nasty. She told me i was making a massive mistake, how it would ruin my life and basically told me to leave so i moved in permently with my DP and his family who lives 15miles away. (his parents are amazing and i feel like part of the family. his mum has already bought me and the baby loads of things which is lovely) Dad was calm although didnt say much.
After all the shouting from mum i thought she would calm down and be ok with it, after all im great with kids (im a nanny looking after babies!) and am in a stable relationship with a good man, have a job and am generally a good person.
Mums sister died from cancer 3 days after i told her i was preg, so i know she is very upset about this, as am i.
Since then ive rarely been home. She has hiden my post amongst other things. She rarely rings me (she did everyday previously) and now most of my contact is via my dad, who only talks about the baby sometimes.
Mum only asked 3 weeks ago when i was due. She hasnt offered to buy us anything, no support or anything. She hasnt asked about my midwife appointments, whether weve thought of any names, or how im feeling. (very low tbh). She doesnt even know ive felt the baby kick. The only thing ive asked for is to put bits and bobs in their double garage like stuff for our new home, and i get told their is no room. (and there is) Funny how that when my brother moved house with her gf dad and mum helped do their house and and had the contents of his house in the garage for months. They did everything to help them. Btw me and my brother dont get speak.
When i do go home dad is fine with me, but mum hides away in the kitchen. Its as if the pregnancy doesnt exist. Its not spoke about. When i go back i feel ashamed and like the black sheep. When she saw the 12 week scan pics she cried (not a happy cry)
My nan is very ill in hospital so i went to see her and an aunty from london was there. We had a big chat. Everyone in my large family knows im pregnant and are excited and ive had alot of support fro them, but my parents havent told anyone. So no one in my family has mentioned it to them. When my aunty rang to congratulate mum all she sed was 'yeah'.
My mum wants me to go home to have dinner with my brother to play happy families. why should i go?
It is really upseting me, i feel like im in the wrong and totally abandoned by my parents.
When my LO in born i know that she will act the doting nan. And my view is that if she doesnt bother now she can stick herself when my LO in here.
What do i do?
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jellybean86 · 21/09/2009 16:02
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